i feel horrible about how i reacted, but im still upset!

**lizzardb63** · 11-18-2011 12:26 PM

Fallen, I've done the same thing! lol My fiance told me he was sooo busy at work that he couldn't talk, yet I see him posting things on facebook. Then I think "Why would he lie to me"...but why did I let this bother me? Because I felt lied to, but I shouldn't get upset because I know he loves me and we'll talk later anyway. Just weird things that upset women somtimes, lol.

**Little** · 11-18-2011 01:52 PM

Excuse her for being the mother of his unborn child who misses him and wants to communicate with him while he's away from her. Different people have different levels of necessity when it comes to their partners' presence. Claws, I assume you need less one-on-one time with your partner and prefer to diversify your social attentions. That's fine for you, and something I assume you would communicate with potential partners, in one way or another, before getting far enough into a relationship to marry or procreate. And I must assume the OP did the same - communicate what she would expect and need in a committed relationship.
Though it is a small betrayal and possibly an honest mistake, it can still hurt. Not to mention, it's weird. "I don't have my own facebook, so I think I'll log onto my wife's and talk to her biffle!" Uh, what?
Let me rephrase my previous post: I would not just be hurt, I'd be breaking expensive things (you know, if I was pregnant again in this situation :P)

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 11-18-2011 01:58 PM

Personally?

I would be livid.

I would think rationally, had enough of hearing me feeling down and out, tired and sick, he has to get up early, probably I'm whining a little too much but hey I am pregnant and you are meant to help support me, your not here much and I left all my family and friends, but yeah ok, women have better understanding sometimes and your not here to hug me, I'll call my Mother and talk to her, or my girlfriend...

So I call my girlfriend and she's like what are you texting for, come to facebook..I do and she's talking to my husband...

Okay, so he couldn't sleep ...TALK to a male

Not my girlfriend, a female, whilst I am pregnant just because you can't sleep, or pick the phone back up, text me, "are you asleep sweet?, "

I get that he wanted "fun" conversations, but it's still not right to not talk to your wife, and to talk alternatively to another female.....

I also know men don't think.

**lizzardb63** · 11-18-2011 02:47 PM

They aren't with each other physically, so I think she needed him mentally and emotionally and he wasn't there for her, but rather talking to her friend instead. No, you don't have to spend every moment together...and they don't because he was on duty! You NEED to have good phone communication otherwise there is NO communication. That's probably why it was such a touchy subject to her. And i can't blame her.

**Darling** · 11-20-2011 01:53 PM

Thank you ladies for putting into words how I feel!
As an update, we talked about everything, and he knows now to send me a text... He cooked me my mega preggo craving, hamburgers with all the fixing and with gf buns

and he took me to see twilight. Lol
Today is another duty day and I have had ample texts and a phone call

Hope this good behavior continues