Thread: i feel horrible about how i reacted, but im still upset!

I think what you feel is completely normal. It just sounds like you felt you were lied to and a little betrayed. And I can understand you being insecure, because he was obviously going behind your back on your facebook and chatting with a friend, when he could have easily been texting and chatting with you. Does this friend of yours and him talk a lot? Are they close friends? Maybe they just got to talking because she thought it was you and he just innocently responded. Has he ever done anything in the past to make you doubt his commitments? If not, I wouldn't read too far into it. I am sure emotions were running high because you did need him and it's a hard thing to go through alone. If you explained how it made you feel and he understands why there shouldn't be any more said. If you don't feel you completely explained how it made you feel, it's probably to best to get it out now and talk to him about it before it eats and you and turns into a fight. If at all possible, talk to him about it in person. Hope this helps a little.

I do feel like I was lied too, I don't understand why he couldn't have sent me a text? Why did he talk on Facebook?.. he doesn't like facebook that's why he doesn't have one.
She is a very good friend of ours. He didn't say anything that would make me worry about his commitment. It just upset me that he was talking to her, anyone actually and not me. I really wanted to talk to him I felt so sad. There was no reason for it. I needed him and he chose to leave me alone.

I did tell him how I felt, and I believe I got it all out. He said he had no idea I felt that way. And I know he is sorry. I feel a bit better now, my mom called and talked to me about it and says she would have been absolutely pissed. And that its not a pregnancy thing he made a bad choice.
It feels better having someone on the outside. Thank you for your response. I think I will see how it goes tonight and let it be done with I don't want to be upset. But it better not happen again I don't deserve to be alone and ignored.

It just sounds like he honestly didn't know it would effect you that much. Sometimes guys don't clue in to our feelings as well as women do. We gotta cut them a little slack occasionally. I am glad you're feeling better. Hopefully he knows better next time- if there is one hehe

It may be exacerbated by pregnancy hormones, but I would be upset in the same situation.

One of the roughest parts of pregnancy is wondering if your feelings are legitimate. Your husband should be HELPING you in this, not making it worse! Tell him to get right!

Pregnancy must be playing a small part... I've been crying all day!!

I'd be upset too, and I don't even have any pregnancy hormones racing lol. But.. like someone else said... sometimes guys (sorry guys, i don't mean all guys... just some guys) really just don't get it til you spell it out. Hinting, getting upset but not really fully revealing why... can fly right over there heads. I would know that would upset someone, or be inconsiderate... most women would lol (again sorry guys) but sometimes men, okay sometimes some people... they don't stop to think how their actions would affect the person they love. THEY know they are not doing wrong, they know they are on the up and up so they don't stop to think how it may look to someone else or how it would make them feel.

So in this, I would tell him, honey if you wake and want to talk, please try me first... I may very well be sitting here lonely. Tell him that it hurts when you miss him and it feels like he's avoiding you. Letting him know how much speaking to him means to you and that you understand when hes tired or needs time to himself... but when he's feeling chatty in the middle of the night, you want to be the first person he reaches out to.

Make it so it can not be misunderstood but Do not make it an argument...

I guess I didn't think my husband had it in him to be hurtful. But as you said hopeless dork he just didn't see what he was doing. Well I made it very, very clear yesterday that he hurt me. We didn't fight, but we talked about it. By the end of the night things were back to normal, with the added bonus of him tucking his tail between his legs lol.
Thank you ladies your comments really helped me level out.

Women are emotional creatures sometimes. She felt betrayed that he'd rather speak with her friend than his own pregnant wife who's alone and lonely. It's actually quite obvious- maybe to me because I am a girl. We sometime take things personally, even when it seems ridiculous.