Thread: My Husband Almost Cheated

Hey justTired,

Im glad my story has helped to sort of comfort/reassure you that relationships can be challenging when trust starts to be played with, even at the slightest amount. I feel very lucky to be in the relationship I am in as I have such a compatible partner who many people would love to have. Same in with you and yours! So with this said, I think it just backs up the fact that there is no such thing as a flawless relationship. It happens to the best of relationships, it happens all relationships. If a couple swore they have never had a problem together. Then they have only just started seeing each other, or they dont experience much together and have a very plain life together, theres nothing great, theres nothing bad.

Just like you i believed in black and white! How could anyone carry a relationship on when the other cheated? How can you be respected for carrying on with the relationship? When me and my partner went through little rough patches and talk of not being together any more is said. It tricked in my head that even a break up is not as simple as black and white. My partners sisters both had kids very young and so I came to the thought of what if me and my partner had a child? Breaking up is not really an option. It would just be selfish. You have to be mature, work through the problem and make the best of it. You have to think, its your responsibility for bringing a child into the world together. Now pull together for the kids and even yourselves. Remind yourselves what you have committed yourselves to do. To help each other out through life and help your offspring. (But then again.. all well and said, but if the relationship was a bad/unhealthy/abusive/destructive relationship then there is obviously no question about moving on in different directions.) Almost like learning what a problem is and what problem can be worked through/changed/dealt with to continue a relationship.

Talking things out is a great way. So I am glad you can openly admit something when it bothers you because there are people in this world that cant. I feel like my partner has this issue slightly. And because of that things are miss understood completely. Like the saying goes for assume! (When you assume you make an '' out of 'u' and 'me'). Funny how thats one of his favorite quotes! Yep me and my fell definitely need a 'talk' one evening when we meet up over the holidays.

Thanks for your questions aswell, ''Did he recognize that what he was doing was somewhat inappropriate for someone is a relationship--was he willing to be more careful because it had upset you? '' I think its a good idea to ask him the objective questions about general scenarios.. rather than subjective scenarios that relate to situations that have been had. Because he will put a different view on it/ make and excuse. Whereas if i was to say what would you think of if this happened with a random person?

Im starting to understand things a bit more and im glad it sounds like you are too! xxx

Just want to say thanks again to all of you for all of the advice and support...it was much needed! We are still talking things through everyday and trying to find out if our insurance will cover counseling. I'm still thinking of new things everyday, reasons why I'm upset...other things in the past that this situation makes me question. Not much to do now but keep talking through it all. But its such relief to have a place like this to vent and get objective opinions.