I have been reading a lot of posts here about women wondering if they should stay or leave their husbands. I myself have posted things on here about it. And most of the replies I see are saying "leave now, its the only way". But the reason we all come to this site is to vent. Weather its about the men in our lives or the baby we just had. Whatever it is, we are here to get things off of our chests. I can't understand why someone can tell somebody to leave their husband over something she wrote when she was ****ed at him. There are a lot of other things that happen between a husband and a wife that doesn't get put down here. Because for some reason, we tend not to talk about the good things in our life. Of course there are always those situations where a woman really does need to leave. But I know that in a lot of situations thats not the case. In my opinion, when you decide to marry someone, you decide to make it work. No matter what. When you have a fight, sometimes it needs to just be a fight. We need to understand that when you love somebody your emotions are strong for them. And when you have a disagreement, your emotions are equally as strong. My point is that I have never loved someone as much as my husband and I have never hated someone as much as him either! Do you think that those old couples walking down the street that have been together for 50 years have never questioned their relationship? I am sure that they still have disagreements! I just wish that when we are here reading all of those "I hate my husband" kinda posts that we understand that if it was really as bad as it seems she would be packing her bags and leaving, not sitting at the computer. And understand that she probably feels a lot better by just posting it. To come back later and read that the only thing that would help is to leave him may not be the best decision. I do really love this site though. It helps to write down the things that are bothering us. And sometimes we just need to to ANYBODY! Thanks for reading. And I would love to read some stuff about the good things your man has done lately!

Hi! I would like to respond to your post about women giving advice on this forum to leave their husbands. I would like to say first that it sounds like you have good control of your marriage and that's great, but remember that's 1 out of millions of couples in the world. Just because one gives advice does not necessarily mean you need to follow. Some women give advice on how they are feeling. They may be going or have been through the same situation, so they may have found that leaving was the answer. Now don't get me wrong I am not crushing your opinion, but this is an opinion forum so don't be too sensitive to others thoughts and opinions. And as you stated, this is a place where women can vent and listen to others. Some women may want to hear the words "leave your husband" because truly that's what they were wanting to do anyway. I don't know about you and your marriage, but its not easy to "Just Leave". Especially when so many things are involved like children and finances. So you may want to rethink that thought! If you would like to read some of the good things about husbands and marriages then I think you may want to try reveiwing that type of Thread before you start posting.. Thanks and I did enjoy reading your post.

LOL!

All anyone is doing here is reading other's opinions or vents.

IMO, if someone asks, "Is it time to leave" and they've been out looking for a place to stay ALREADY, then they've answered their own question.

It's time, IN THEIR OWN LIFE, to move on because they've already started the process of doing so!

It's been stated that this is nothing more than advice that one can take or leave.
Same as when you talk to your sister or family or somebody.

You can take it or leave it.

I am with you on that!!!!

Nick-Nick!!!!

I understand what you all are saying. It seems that we live in a society that people get married with the idea if it does not work, we can just start over. Most of the time, however, this is a lot more difficult than it seems in the beginning. In a marriage, not only do you have finance issues when you separate, but there are family issues as well. For me I have three children and two of them have been divorced and remarried. I understand why they did it, but it is so hard on the family to loose family members. Small children just ask where is Uncle so so and where is aunt so and so. Then if there are children involved in the acutally divorce that is even more difficult. THe emotional ties that occur with a marriage is multiple and far reaching. This being the case, I believe that if at all possible marriages should try to stay together. This means a lot of compromise and understanding. I know that there are times when a man or a women must leave a situation and I fully agree with this, such as when there is abuse, or drugs, or extra marital affairs. No woman or man should have to live with this, but what I am saying it is not easy and requires a great deal of consideration before a person decides to start their life over again.

I understand what you guys are saying. But my point was that we all get on here to vent. So a lot of times we vent about that really horrible thing that they said to us last night. And sometimes we forget about the really good things in our relationships. Im not trying to devalue anyones opinion here. But I just feel like we could never understand what someones life is like by reading one single post. I know that everyones situation is different. And that there are some cases where a woman really does need to leave and if the advice she gets here gives her the strength to actually do it, then this site is the best thing she could have ever found. I agree with a lot of your responses. I just think that sometimes people are too quick to say leave him now!! I think that people in life in general have done this. When you marry someone you are vowing to get through anything. And, no, I don't have the best marriage in the world. We are very young and are still learning how to do this. We fight and sometimes I hate him!! But no matter how bad the bad times are, the good times are always better. And all this is just my opinion. I'm not saying that the people who do say leave are wrong. I just couldn't tell someone to do this if I didn't really know everything about their relationship. And when I said that we should write good things about then men in our lives, I meant myself included. I can find a bunch of posts I have written talking bad about him. But this was written when I was so angry. And this happens in a marriage. I understood that going into it. And when he comes back and we talk about things, they get better. I hope you guys understand. I don't think there is such a thing as bad advice. It depends on how you take it and use it in your life that matters.