Whilhelm Thanks for your imput, I found it pretty hard to talk to my friends about this issue. and yes it is asians, I feel pretty weird about the situation because I'm totally opposite of what an asian looks like. I guess when I looked on his computer I saw 90% of asian porn, It made me feel that's what he wants.
The history on the computer was not only for the day it went on and on with asian porn. I'm still having a hard time why asians?
well - i certainly wouldn't be able to say with any certainty. if you've read any of my rantings on here you'll know that i am passionately opposed to porn because i believe it is harmful. i also believe it stems from deeper psychological needs.
if you accept my belief - then it would indicate that he might have significant issues he's "self medicating" through porn use. don't get me wrong - i'm not suggesting psychosis or hidden childhood trauma. often it is as simple as, "my dad never showd affection." whatever - porn use & masturbation releases a flood on endorphins that are no less powerful than heroin, in terms of their dramatic euphoric effect on a man's mind.
if you're hurting - especially if you don't know it - you won't be while you're getting off on porn.
but you didn't ask for all that. why asians? you could ask the same question of anything a guy was using. what if he liked as*es? breasts? thongs?
it's really not the asians. it's just erotica - asians are specifically exotic & beautiful. doesn't detract from your beauty or allure. go back to the buffet analogy.
does the fact that he goes for the prime rib erase that for years you've known him to really like salmon? no. he can like both. indulging one doesn't take away from his love of the other.
how can a guy be in love & lust with his petite, olive-skinned, brown haired wife - yet still think jessica alba is hot?
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