Thread: Men watch porn because...

It is true, EVERY guy gets "sexually excited", its just that some are better at hiding it than others. The shyest and most sensitive guy will pop a boner and have dirty thoughts/reactions as much as a jerk football jock. I'm not being sexist at all I am answering an age old question that has had guys all around the world nagged by women all around the world. if you hold off your man he WILL become agitated by the urge to merge. There is nothing wrong with looking at porn, people say it degrades women, think about gay male porn, isn't that degrading? Its not like the women on those videos are forced to do what they do, it might sound like a **** job but lets say you get 5 grand per session, sounds better huh? 1/3 of the people who look at porn are women (from Oprah magazine) and 56% viewers of gay male porn videos are female. Did you know that women are as sexually excited as men are when watching porn? Your body will feel excited but your mind has been taught by society that women should not feel horny when looking at porn and that it is wrong/bad etc. I think that couples should work out the porn viewing issue togethor and maybe even watch it togethor (sp?). If I sound sexist or anything then sorry I don't mean to be.

I agree with that one person, would you rather have your man cheating with a real life woman or just get off by watching one he will never meet? Holding off on a man causes his mind to wander especially to that coworker that has been hitting on him when he was satisfied but now that he has thousands of kids to shoot he just might consider cheating. When I had a girlfriend I watched porn all the time and she was ok with it because she didn't want to lose her virginity till college. When I look at those naked women in the videos I don't give a sh*t about them, I just look at them so that I can have an orgasm, nothing more.

Originally Posted by LittleDragon

That is the biggest load of bull i have ever heard!!! men should be happy with the woman they have and not have to go and look at porn at the end of the day they are watching men f**k women now I myself have to say that is just sad..going by what another woman said on one of the posts I also class watching porn as cheating!!!

Wow good luck hooking up with a gay guy because thats the only guy you're going to get with that mindset. Oh you have a boyfriend? he watches porn behind your back unless you screw him on a daily basis.

Originally Posted by Ravsoma

I disagree with both of you.

Normal Guy... I thought you said you were mature? That wasn't a very thoughtful thing to post. A husband and wife are supposed to be their to support and help each other, including sexual needs. You make it sound as if everyone woman that gets offended by her husband watching porn is not putting out enough.
The excuse that you get horny is horrible and can also go for women.

Couples can Support by working it out and either watching porn together or letting him do it or not you can compromise by buying the most expensive vibrator on the planet and having HIM jelous at that. Either way you can't stop a man from watching porn, he'll just jack off to one of your cosmopolitan magazines or whatevers in the bathroom.

Discussions about this always just really make me shake my head in disgust. Not disgust for the man watching porn, but disgust for the selfishness of people in general and also the fact that people seem to forget what human nature is all about.

First of all, as women, we can't begin to understand how men feel about sex throughout every day. We are wired and programmed completely different on so many levels. First of all, when you get down to biology, women's bodies are programmed to have hormonal urges at certain times of the month when our bodies are ready to reproduce. Our bodies only ovulate once a month and therfor, biology would say that we would be most horny ONE period of time a month. Of course, it's not literally one time a month, but it's pretty close for a lot of women. So women in general just do not have constant strong animal instincts to have sex on a regular basis.

Men are biologically programmed to spread their "seed" as much as possible and with multiple women in order to ensure survival of our species, just like every other organism. People don't want to admit that or even think about it. They want to live in this civilized fantasy world about how biology works. They don't want to think that we could be as simplistic sexually as "animals". I hate to break it to you, but we are and there is no changing that. So men have to deal with a much stronger sexual urge then women do and frankly, I am impressed that they have as much self control as they do to just watch porn and NOT go out and have physical relations with another woman.

I think you should also keep in mind that it's not only men who have these constant sexual urges and desire to watch porn. There are plenty of women who deal with the same things and for some reason also have high sexual urges. There are a lot of women who really enjoy porn freely. You are probably saying, why don't we hear about them all the time then? Well, that is because men can understand the woman that watches porn and are more likely to accept it as a natural thing instead of carrying on about it like it's the end of the world.

Let's not forget that women and men are mentally programmed to look at sex differently as they are growing up. In fact, it just dawned on my why there is still, to this day, such a big difference in how men and women look at sex. Think about it, you have a married couple with two children... a boy and a girl. It comes time for them to have "the talk" about sex. What typically happens? Mom goes to tell daughter about sex and dad goes to tell son about sex. And the legacy continues and the gap is still not bridged. Usually what son and daughter are brought up to believe are very different.

I think it's sad that people have turned sex into this "thing" that should be hidden from view, never talked about in public, and oh so sacred. On one hand, people say that a relationship should last without sex because sex is not the important factor in a relationship. They say it is the love and support that makes the relationship important (which I agree with to an extent). But on the other hand, people flip out the second someone tries to satisfy those natural sexual urges with something like porn. If sex is not so important and it isn't want makes a relationship, then why are you so defensive about your man watching porn?

People attach so much excess meaning to what sex really is. Sex is at it's most basic level, simply a means for reproduction and satisfaction. Yes, it is a means to bond and share a more intimate connection with their partner, but it shouldn't be something that has so many rules attached to it.

It is our nature to be sexual. It's normal to look at other people that pass by and gauge whether or not they are attractive. It's normal to be aroused by someone who is attractive. It is also normal to be aroused by other people having sex. It has nothing to do with love or meaningful relationships. It is simply the way our bodies work. So there should not be anything wrong with someone watching other people having sex on a television, magazine, or computer. It is just sex... what we were made to do. It is something to give physical pleasure and release of stress.

Women cannot understand why men feel that they HAVE to either have sex or get that sexual gratification in some form or another. That is because we do not suffer in the same ways men do. Most women cannot comprehend, or even try for that matter, the fact that a man's body will seriously make him suffer if he does not do what he was made to do. Ever hear the term "blue balls"? Well, it's not something they just made up. They really are in pain if they are repeatedly aroused and nothing comes of it. That is physical pain they are having to endure. On top of that, but sexual appetite that is not released will translate into frustration and irritation for men. They cannot help it. It is the way they were made. The chemicals in their bodies really will make them miserable if they do not have orgasms. I don't think you women realize that their bodies are constantly producing sperm which is meant to be released. If it is not released, tension builds up. Honestly, how can any of you women even entertain the fact that you can know what they are going through?

Having said all that, I think that women who make their men feel like they are committing some horrible crime for watching porn or having regular sexual thoughts should be ashamed of themselves. I mean, that is just as bad as men assuming that they know what it is like to go through PMS or a menstrual cycle. Think about it. When a man acts like your period is not that big of a deal, what do you think? It infuriates you right? You think "What does he possibly know about what I am going through as a woman?" Just remember how that feels when you are being mean to your husband because you found him looking at a Playboy magazine and you are telling him that what he feels is wrong or no big deal.

Women need to stop treating porn like it is some form of cheating. You know, if I had daily nonstop urges to have sex, I was only allowed to get off with my hand and no visual/audio stimulation, and my partner wasn't helping me out... I would get really frustrated. I would be bored out of my mind and angry. Especially if my partner was degrading me when I tried to make myself feel better.

Life is too short to miss out on sexual pleasure. Think outside the box people and try to put yourself in your partner's place. Stop attaching so much emotion and meaning to every little sexual thing and think about what something is really worth. Do you really think it is worth it to ruin relationships over something that is natural? I say you should just be happy that they are not physically meeting up with other women because that is what their bodies tell them to do on a regular basis. They can't help it and I think that the men who manage to not physically cheat, are doing a pretty **** good job... even if they do watch porn every day.