Well I'm not that old.
I still ride a Yamaha 175 DT.

I think that 'trust with man' thing
has become quite prevalent. It's
quite ugly, don't you think?

In a way, it's like stealing a housebroken
dog. You are too lazy to go out and train
one, so you steal mine.

I totally agree. It makes us seem like we never truly leave adolesence, where we can never find the point where we look our sister's/best friend's/co-worker's/roomate's boyfriend/husband/recent ex-boyfriend/husband in the face and say, "You must be joking if you think I'd do that to her."

Its competitiveness at its highest degree. "He wants me MORE than he wants you." Apparently being wanted sexually is grounds for decimating bonded female relationships that usually mean much, much more.

Sad, sad, sad.

And I've done it when I was young with my friend. She dated literally everyone in the world and hated to lose an admirer. Sometimes she just briefly dated guys or sometimes it was something much more. She dated someone in briefly in high school that I then dated for five years starting in college, and I could never trust her alone with him. The minute I blinked she was in his personal space. Who was wrong? Me or her? I'll never figure it out.

And throughout our entire friendship, every time I confided a crush to her, she promptly went and slept with him. Sometimes she tried to keep it from me, sometimes not. So after more than a few years of this I started exacting my own revenge. It doesn't feel good now, but it did then. Unfortunately I think we've hurt each other equally, and its a shame we hurt each other at all.

She was (then) prettier and had much more self-esteem than I. I have come to think I wasn't so much a best friend as a booster for her, a wing-man of sorts. But oh, how things have changed.

And I have no problems leaving her alone with my husband. Ever.

When I was fourteen, for the one summer, I went after
my friend's boyfriends.

I had to be in the house at nine pm. I couldn't date,
but just to have the boy ask me out, that was all I
needed to feel 'better than' whoever.

At the end of the summer, when school began, I was
completely out of that mindset. I had gotten
whatever 'self esteem' I needed, and then would
walk away from any man if I knew he was in any way
involved with anyone.

It is something you 'grow' out of, unless you have
a serious crisis with your self.

Many women do.

I can think of a fellow, perfectly ordinary, who
many years ago asked me to pretend to be his
girlfriend.

Just go with him to a function, and then he'd take
me home within two hours. Just pretend to be with
him.

At first I 'felt sorry' for him, after all, if you
can't find a date to a function and need to beg
your lawyer....

Anyway, the point was, when the females found
out he was 'with' a lawyer, well, they flocked him
as if he had turned into the most irresistable man
whoever lived.

And they fought over him, who would take him
away from the lawyer!

He told me this months later, and I did like a
what? That's still going on?

Ladylane, tell the truth, didn't you claim to have
crushes on boys you found odious, just to have
your friend sleep with them?

K - You should have charged your client. It was slightly akin to winning a case for him.

I wish I had had enough guile to dupe my friend! Oh, that would have been fun.

Unfortunately I didn't.

Still, she slept with guys that we both now find to be odious as adults, and she can't take back what she did.

The beauty of being a late bloomer is that you bloom with more wisdom than you would have had when you were younger. I was more selective and made less mistakes.

An unrequited crush, I can deny. Sex she can try to deny, but it physically happened.

Funny aside - our shop teacher (easy h.s. credit) coached a sport for the rival town after school. He took a shine to me and always wanted to set me up with a boy from that school who he really got along with, but he always had a girlfriend. His family owned several businesses and they had quite a bit of money.

My same friend knew specifically who this boy was. But she wasn't aware of what my teacher had wanted to do.

The summer after freshman year of college, at a bar, I see her fluffing her hair and putting on her "come hither" look to some preppy dark-haired boy. I asked who was in her sights. She just walked up to him and started talking to him, introducing herself, etc.

When he mentioned his name, I couldn't help but be floored - it was the shop teacher's "intended" - and when I said my name, he was just as floored. We told my friend the story, and she was anything but amused. He then turned his full attention on me.

When we went to the ladies' a little later, she began screaming at me about how he had a girlfriend and I should lay off him because I was making a fool of myself.

I simply said, but it was okay when you wanted him. She screamed at me some more and slammed out of the bathroom.

We dated for four months. He was the worst kisser I ever encountered, and if I could have gotten past that, he would have been the perfect boyfriend.

Sorry Kaylar, I was wrong again.....You are a woman too.....I was confused.....

Wow
Exactly who or what did you think I was?

I am sorry but I thought you were a man. I tried to find out in your old posts but was not sure. Truly I never thought woman. I figured a maybe older gentleman lawyer from England who was very proper and I was trying to be respectful. I am so sorry I asked you your age because like you I am 39 and hot. As they say older women make good lovers.....and they do....Again for the second time, please forgive....C

I am an attorney at law in Jamaica.