Hi ladies. I am new to this site and am in serious need of some advice. My husband and I have been together for 6 years. We have 2 beautiful girls (4 & 1) and I cannot shake this feeling of uncertainty.

When I was 7 months pregnant with our first daughter, I found out my husband had given me HPV. He knew he had it, but I don't think he understood what it really meant, and perhaps he was ashamed. I completely freaked out and we had a long talk about it, or I should say, I talked about it. Things were going good for a while until I became pregnant again. When I was 4-5 months pregnant, I found out he had been talking to a girl friend of ours. She was calling his cell numerous times and once, I found her motel number in another state. I asked why they were talking and all he could say was "she needed someone to talk to about her relationship". I didn't know what to say. If I was having problems with my husband, I wouldn't call his 'guy friends' to talk about them. I asked him multiple times if he ever cheated on me, he said no. I asked him if he thought about being with someone else, and he said not really. I asked him if he had ever been with her and he said no. (side info, she has been with many men). Later, I found out that had slept with her before we got together.

Fast foward... He was married before we got together. I asked why they divorced and he said she cheated on him. I never talked to this woman before. One day, I emailed her, just to say hi and we hit it off really well. We have been talking for a long time, never about her relationship with him, but then one day last week, she mentioned he had cheated on her a couple of times and that he lied throughout the whole marriage, which is why SHE left him. I asked him and his response, like every other time is... he just cries and tries to forget I brought it up. The girl he cheated on his first wife still lives here. I know she would go back to him if asked.

Last night we were laying in bed watching "The Holiday" and he called me "Katie"... which is not my name! It caught both of us off guard and he said it was because we were watching a movie with Kate Winslet... hmmm.... who knows...

My husband has a prepaid cell phone. He keeps it on him every minute of every day. It's only for personal use. He takes it into the bathroom with him, to work, keeps it by the side of the bed (b/c he uses the alarm on it in the morning)..

I am so sick to my stomach from worrying about if he's cheating. I don't know what to do. Please give me your opinion.

Wow!!
I hope Kaylar reads this, and post a reply, she is so good in supporting women like you, as well as many great members on this site.

Ok, this is why I tell my friends , "DON'T GET MARRIED UNTILL YOU KNOW YOUR MAN'S HISTORY" so you would have known from his ex that he is CHEATER.

I feel you pain, I wish I was close to you to shout out loud in your face:
HE IS CHEATING ON YOU.

he is cheating on you,do you need more signs ?
not any sigh you mentioned says otherwise.

get a divocre before you come home and find him in bed with his Katie

Seriously, I just don't know or maybe I don't want to know. I guess I'm just naive

He knows something is bothering me and we have talked about this over and over.. but we never discuss it enough to solve it. He always gets emotional and says " what do you want me from " and proceedes to tell me he's being honest. I don't know how to fully get this out in the open.

sorry " what do you want from me "..

That's usually how it goes. I start to feel bad for asking and then we both make up and act like everything is fine.

i don't know that i would jump to the conclusion that "housewife" has already made, but keep a close eye on things..don't confront him if you find something suspicious, make note of things for a month or so and then ask him to explain things..good luck..

why on earth would a woman call your husband on his cellphone?
why did not he tell you about it?


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once a cheater... always a cheater

when someone accidentally calls the wrong name, he is most likely calling this name a numerous times a day that he got used to calling it.


who would take his cell phone to the bathroom unless he is expecting a call from the president.??

If you don't know any investigation techniques, then hire a private investigator to know what is going on with him. even I don't need an investigator to tell me that, but sound that you live in denial and not wanting to believe it.

put in your mind that you always deserve the best.