i want anthor baby but husband doesnt

**kjersi** · 11-02-2007, 10:11 PM

i really want anthor baby like now...i would like to have a brother or sister for my 2 girls ages 1 and 2 and i believe it would be better to have them close in age..but my husband wants no more at all and it really upsets me.....becuz i kno i want more than 2.is there a good way to talk to him without him just automattically shutting out the idea.....he says he doesnt want the stress of it..cuz we alredy have 2 wild girls..but im an only child and want ATLEAST one more..!!

**sourpuss** · 11-02-2007, 10:15 PM

Sweetheart, with all the drama you have going on in your marriage and the possibility that your husband may have gotten another woman pregnant....please do not bring another child into that mess until you are sure everything is straightened out. A stable, loving home is much more important to a child than having playmates that are close in age.

**Fallen1** · 11-02-2007, 10:17 PM

Please don't get upset with what I'm about to say, but I think with everything that is going on in your relationship at this point in time I think that having another child would be a mistake right now.

**kjersi** · 11-02-2007, 10:25 PM

yay!! she was lieing just like i suspected..my husband was telling me the truth..i dont want playmates...i want a baby....our relationship is fine.....the only problem we had was this girl.....i knew she was lieing..and i believe she made need help....everything checked out and i am sos0o0o0 happy...

**JubesInquest** · 11-06-2007, 12:05 PM

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Originally Posted by kjersi

yay!! she was lieing just like i suspected..my husband was telling me the truth..i dont want playmates...i want a baby....our relationship is fine.....the only problem we had was this girl.....i knew she was lieing..and i believe she made need help....everything checked out and i am sos0o0o0 happy...

Even though the woman isn't pregnant, you and your husband and still have issues among yourselves that need to be worked out.

You both would do well to get some counseling because he still cheated on you, and you went to your ex for advice when things went wrong between you and your husband.

Get some good, objective advice from a therapist BEFORE you bring another child into everything that's been going on.

**rcoreyus** · 11-06-2007, 10:58 PM

Please don't pressure your husband into having another child if he doesn't want one. That can put terrible stress on a relationship.

**JubesInquest** · 11-07-2007, 12:31 PM

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That can put terrible stress on a relationship.

...And there's plenty of stress to go around

**kjersi** · 11-07-2007, 04:43 PM

thank u for all the good points of view..they make me think..and im glad things r going better but itstruesome thingsdo still need to be worked out...i would like very much to have counsling or even just a 3rd person...

**sourpuss** · 11-07-2007, 05:02 PM

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Originally Posted by kjersi

thank u for all the good points of view..they make me think..and im glad things r going better but itstruesome thingsdo still need to be worked out...i would like very much to have counsling or even just a 3rd person...

Can you get your husband to go to one? The two of you would benefit from going. If you can't get him to go, go by yourself.

There are several counselors that charge reduced fees based on your income if you don't have insurance so don't let the cost be a reason not to go.

**kjersi** · 11-08-2007, 11:32 PM

im not sure if he wantsto..he acctually wants to be a physciatrist... so when we talk everything isfine it just takes alot for him to open up

11-02-2007, 10:11 PM	#1
kjersi VIP Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 55	i want anthor baby but husband doesnt i really want anthor baby like now...i would like to have a brother or sister for my 2 girls ages 1 and 2 and i believe it would be better to have them close in age..but my husband wants no more at all and it really upsets me.....becuz i kno i want more than 2.is there a good way to talk to him without him just automattically shutting out the idea.....he says he doesnt want the stress of it..cuz we alredy have 2 wild girls..but im an only child and want ATLEAST one more..!!

11-02-2007, 10:25 PM	#4
kjersi VIP Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 55	we got everything straightened out!! yay!! she was lieing just like i suspected..my husband was telling me the truth..i dont want playmates...i want a baby....our relationship is fine.....the only problem we had was this girl.....i knew she was lieing..and i believe she made need help....everything checked out and i am sos0o0o0 happy...

11-07-2007, 04:43 PM	#8
kjersi VIP Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 55	all good thank u for all the good points of view..they make me think..and im glad things r going better but itstruesome thingsdo still need to be worked out...i would like very much to have counsling or even just a 3rd person...

11-08-2007, 11:32 PM	#10
kjersi VIP Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 55	i im not sure if he wantsto..he acctually wants to be a physciatrist... so when we talk everything isfine it just takes alot for him to open up

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11-02-2007, 10:15 PM	#2
sourpuss WH Moderator Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Montana Posts: 2,187	Sweetheart, with all the drama you have going on in your marriage and the possibility that your husband may have gotten another woman pregnant....please do not bring another child into that mess until you are sure everything is straightened out. A stable, loving home is much more important to a child than having playmates that are close in age.

11-02-2007, 10:17 PM	#3
Fallen1 WH Moderator Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: US Posts: 955 Blog Entries: 1	Please don't get upset with what I'm about to say, but I think with everything that is going on in your relationship at this point in time I think that having another child would be a mistake right now.

11-06-2007, 10:58 PM	#6
rcoreyus March 2008 "Poster of the Month" Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 1,742	Please don't pressure your husband into having another child if he doesn't want one. That can put terrible stress on a relationship.