I am wondering why

**renfroe1012001** · 11-12-2007 03:56 PM

Okay I have been with my fiance for almost two years and we just moved in together in may and well the first couple weeks everything was fine then now. . . . . well it is another story. . . . Its like there is a new him . . . . everything has changed we never have sex anymore it is like he isn't interested in me anymore and I dont know what I could have done I don't know and it kills me. . . .I mean before we where having sex about 3 or 4 times a week and now I have to beg and not get off of him to even get what I want then he isn't interested still, I have tried everything in the book. . . . .I don't know what else to do maybe someone out there know what I could do to get him interested in me again. He says now that he doesn't have a sex drive but he is able to jackoff to porn everyday of the week and well it gets old I am the one in the relationship who tryes and trys to make it work and well it is like he doesn't care what should I or could I do to keep him interested? HELP??????

**misskitty3** · 11-14-2007 12:14 PM

I'm sorry you are going through this. I'm wondering, how are other things between you two after moving in together? there could be an underlying problem (not saying there is, cause only you would know) that needs attention.

men jack off and watch porn like we blow dry our hair. its not a big deal to them, more like they do it cause they are bored during the day or whatever. my hubby watches just about every day and its sometimes annoying, but what are ya gonna do? since he is doing that and not giving you the attention you deserve, ask him about his private moments.

honestly, what i would do is watch the porn and take care of myself while he's in the room so he can get a clear picture of what you have to do in order to stay sane. maybe that's childish, but it could turn him on. or just leave toys and stuff out to hint that you are not going to "roll over"

i don't know if any of this is helpful but either way i wish you luck

**renfroe1012001** · 11-16-2007 06:42 PM

Originally Posted by misskitty3

I'm sorry you are going through this. I'm wondering, how are other things between you two after moving in together? there could be an underlying problem (not saying there is, cause only you would know) that needs attention.

men jack off and watch porn like we blow dry our hair. its not a big deal to them, more like they do it cause they are bored during the day or whatever. my hubby watches just about every day and its sometimes annoying, but what are ya gonna do? since he is doing that and not giving you the attention you deserve, ask him about his private moments.

honestly, what i would do is watch the porn and take care of myself while he's in the room so he can get a clear picture of what you have to do in order to stay sane. maybe that's childish, but it could turn him on. or just leave toys and stuff out to hint that you are not going to "roll over"

i don't know if any of this is helpful but either way i wish you luck

Everything else is fine in the relationship. . . . It is great the only bad thing is the sex we had it so much before we moved in together and now I have to beg and I really don't like doing that but . . . . . .. I don'tl like the fact of knowing that he is looking at other women and jacking off to them you know?

**rcoreyus** · 11-17-2007 12:03 PM

Originally Posted by renfroe1012001

Everything else is fine in the relationship. . . . It is great the only bad thing is the sex we had it so much before we moved in together and now I have to beg and I really don't like doing that but . . . . . .. I don'tl like the fact of knowing that he is looking at other women and jacking off to them you know?

Until I started reading these lists I didn't understand the problem some women had with porn - as far as I knew, some men would occasionally wach porn - but what harm in that.

Now I'm seeing that there are men to actually prefer porn to their SOs. As a man, I find this hard to believe, but it seems to be true. It doesn't seem to be anything the original poster is doing, but a problem with her fiance. Don't know what to suggest.

**little-lessons** · 03-28-2008 05:55 AM

I s there something else going on with him that you aren't aware of? Like stress at work? family?

If he has never lived with a girl before, this could be a very big change for him so he may need time to get use to it.

But if it keeps going on, you really have to sit him down and tell him how you feel. You can't go on like that week after week. And to make a relationship work, it has to work both ways.

Hope things work out for you.

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