should I be mad???

**jen0519** · 12-10-2007, 11:00 AM

I love my husband. I trust him more than I have ever trusted anybody. That is the best part of our relationship, is the trust we have for each other. But last Friday he wanted to go out to the bar with his friends. I am not 21 yet, but I will be in a couple of weeks. So I couldn't go with him. I didn't mind this. He goes out occasionally and its not a problem with me. I trust him. He came home soon after the bar closed and we went to bed. But yesterday, my sister called me and she told me that she was at the bar the same night and that she was hanging out with my husband. She also told me that she almost got into a fight with a girl. She told me that she saw this girl dancing with ryan and getting a little too close. She went over and started dancing in between them. She got mad and called my sister a **** for "****blocking" her. This girl tried to fight my sister! So my first reaction was why did she think that she was getting any from my husband in the first place? I have been to clubs before. I know what its like when there is a big crowd of people dancing. Everybody dances with everybody. But, why was this girl mad enough about my sister cutting her off from Ryan, to start a fight? Then I realized that some girl tried to fight my sister! I am very close with my sis and it almost makes me more mad about that. I know that Ryan would have never done anything with this girl. What should I do. Should I be mad at Ryan? Or should I just let it go. I am not the jelous type at all. So it is weird for me because I actually feel like i am right now. I want to go beat this girl up! I live in such a small town. Theres not many people that don't know that Ryan and I are married! Chances are she knows who i am, even though my sister said she didn't recognize her. I hate girls like this! They irritate the **** out of me! Especially here, because everybody knows everybody. And so many girls throw themselves at my husband every time I am not next to him. Even though I know ryan wouldn't do anything, it makes me mad at them. I am confused. I think it would be best to let it go for now, and when I turn 21 go to the bar and remind all those girls who he is with!

**Little** · 12-10-2007, 05:14 PM

Some women get a kick out of stealing another woman's man.
Get assurance that your husband isn't egging her on, then forget about her.
Kaylar, what was that line you told someone to drop the next time a woman tried to hit on her husband?
"Oh look honey, it's a little ***** who wants to s*ck you off" or something like that?
Insult the girl, make her a joke rather than take her seriously, and she shouldn't bother you again.

**jen0519** · 12-11-2007, 08:03 AM

I know that its not him. But what was going on to make her think that she was getting with him? Thats what I wonder. I hate thinking this stuff. I know its ******. I know that I trust him more than that. But this is really the first time I have heard about something like this. Ryan told me this morning that he remembers more of what happened. And that she was grabbing his butt. Thats why my sister came over and pushed her off of him! yeah, go sister! But it just is not sitting right with me. I can't wait until I turn 21. I will let that chick know who I am!

**Little** · 12-11-2007, 09:55 AM

DON'T FIGHT HER.
Girls like that just want to be validated by a fight. Do like I said. Insult her. Make a joke of her. Don't give her the pleasure of your anger.
He could have been ignoring her completely, and the way some girls are, they'd just keep coming.

**jen0519** · 12-11-2007, 10:09 PM

I know. Trust me, its not like me to get in a actual fight! But I am almost for sure that I know who she is. I want to find out and make her realize that Ryan would have never touched her! Most girls around here are pretty respectful of me. They stay away from Ryan. But there is always that girl who knows me and doesn't care. Thats what gets me the most! Deep inside I would like to just hit her, but I have never been to jail and I don't ever plan on going! Some ****** girl isn't worth that! I hate being jealous! I never get like this. Anyway, I can't wait to be 21 just so I can go out and have fun with my husband! It seems like I am so much older than I am and so it will be nice to go out with adults and get to see the fun side of adulthood once!

**JubesInquest** · 12-12-2007, 09:00 AM

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Originally Posted by jen0519

I know. Trust me, its not like me to get in a actual fight! But I am almost for sure that I know who she is. I want to find out and make her realize that Ryan would have never touched her! Most girls around here are pretty respectful of me. They stay away from Ryan. But there is always that girl who knows me and doesn't care. Thats what gets me the most! Deep inside I would like to just hit her, but I have never been to jail and I don't ever plan on going! Some ****** girl isn't worth that! I hate being jealous! I never get like this. Anyway, I can't wait to be 21 just so I can go out and have fun with my husband! It seems like I am so much older than I am and so it will be nice to go out with adults and get to see the fun side of adulthood once!

Jen,

This girl could have been drunk and thought she was going home with your husband.

The thing of it is, she is just one example of what a lot of women do. She's not going to be the only woman to do something like this. You're married, and guess what? Women will do this if they know you're married (just to get under your skin and force you to react in a way that they figure they will get you in trouble) or if they don't know you're married (in a relationship).

DON'T FIGHT HER!!!

People have no respect for marriage anymore; that doesn't mean your husband has no respect, Jen; I mean other women and men don't have respect!

As long as your husband doesn't cheat or give you reason to think he's cheating, don't even get started in a petty argument or fight. Did the girl know your sister was Ryan's sister-in-law? I think she did; if not, she probably felt like your sister was competition for her.

Anyway, just calm yourself and don't worry about it. Your husband loves you and you love him, and that's what matters!
Don't fight that ignorant girl!
She's obviously been wanting some form of confrontation from you for a while.
Don't give that to her!

rosewater · 12-12-2007, 09:16 AM

Listen, I know where your coming from. If someone disrespected my sister I would go nuts but think about it. Is she worth going to jail over? Is she worth it? It would affect when you apply for a job, the way people see you, your marriage, and if you have a child. Going to jail over some b%&$#?? Even if you don't want to fight her and you confront her,maybe she will start fighting you. Leave it.
I have another question, is she married and committed to you?? Wait, that would be your husband not her! He could have stoped her or walked away,right? If you were out with friends and dancing with someone and he got out of line what would you do? Let him keep going or walk away??? Your husband could act the same way that he wants you to act. Respect goes both ways, not a one way street.
In my view point, I don't think it's a good idea to dance with other girls or guys. Then there is no problem of anything getting out of line. You can have a good time without dancing with a guy or girl. You don't need someone else to have a good time.
Well, I hope you make the right choice and don't go to jail over something like this. Talk to your husband, not her!!!
Good luck and take care!!

**JubesInquest** · 12-12-2007, 11:10 AM

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He could have stopped her or walked away, right?

I have to agree with this.

The husband knows he's married ... was he drinking? It would have been wise for him to draw the line on the woman and let her know he's taken and he doesn't care for her company. Period.
No reason for the wife, who wasn't there, to come in and start getting into a fight with this woman.

The husband should've shut her down immediately.

12-10-2007, 11:00 AM	#1
jen0519 VIP Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 91	should I be mad??? I love my husband. I trust him more than I have ever trusted anybody. That is the best part of our relationship, is the trust we have for each other. But last Friday he wanted to go out to the bar with his friends. I am not 21 yet, but I will be in a couple of weeks. So I couldn't go with him. I didn't mind this. He goes out occasionally and its not a problem with me. I trust him. He came home soon after the bar closed and we went to bed. But yesterday, my sister called me and she told me that she was at the bar the same night and that she was hanging out with my husband. She also told me that she almost got into a fight with a girl. She told me that she saw this girl dancing with ryan and getting a little too close. She went over and started dancing in between them. She got mad and called my sister a ** for "blocking" her. This girl tried to fight my sister! So my first reaction was why did she think that she was getting any from my husband in the first place? I have been to clubs before. I know what its like when there is a big crowd of people dancing. Everybody dances with everybody. But, why was this girl mad enough about my sister cutting her off from Ryan, to start a fight? Then I realized that some girl tried to fight my sister! I am very close with my sis and it almost makes me more mad about that. I know that Ryan would have never done anything with this girl. What should I do. Should I be mad at Ryan? Or should I just let it go. I am not the jelous type at all. So it is weird for me because I actually feel like i am right now. I want to go beat this girl up! I live in such a small town. Theres not many people that don't know that Ryan and I are married! Chances are she knows who i am, even though my sister said she didn't recognize her. I hate girls like this! They irritate the ** out of me! Especially here, because everybody knows everybody. And so many girls throw themselves at my husband every time I am not next to him. Even though I know ryan wouldn't do anything, it makes me mad at them. I am confused. I think it would be best to let it go for now, and when I turn 21 go to the bar and remind all those girls who he is with!

12-12-2007, 09:16 AM	#7
rosewater Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 24	Listen, I know where your coming from. If someone disrespected my sister I would go nuts but think about it. Is she worth going to jail over? Is she worth it? It would affect when you apply for a job, the way people see you, your marriage, and if you have a child. Going to jail over some b%&$#?? Even if you don't want to fight her and you confront her,maybe she will start fighting you. Leave it. I have another question, is she married and committed to you?? Wait, that would be your husband not her! He could have stoped her or walked away,right? If you were out with friends and dancing with someone and he got out of line what would you do? Let him keep going or walk away??? Your husband could act the same way that he wants you to act. Respect goes both ways, not a one way street. In my view point, I don't think it's a good idea to dance with other girls or guys. Then there is no problem of anything getting out of line. You can have a good time without dancing with a guy or girl. You don't need someone else to have a good time. Well, I hope you make the right choice and don't go to jail over something like this. Talk to your husband, not her!!! Good luck and take care!! __________________ rosewater

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12-10-2007, 05:14 PM	#2
Little WH Junior Administrator Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: whjuniorad[at]hotmail[dot]com Posts: 1,808 Blog Entries: 4	Some women get a kick out of stealing another woman's man. Get assurance that your husband isn't egging her on, then forget about her. Kaylar, what was that line you told someone to drop the next time a woman tried to hit on her husband? "Oh look honey, it's a little ***** who wants to s*ck you off" or something like that? Insult the girl, make her a joke rather than take her seriously, and she shouldn't bother you again.

12-11-2007, 08:03 AM	#3
jen0519 VIP Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 91	I know that its not him. But what was going on to make her think that she was getting with him? Thats what I wonder. I hate thinking this stuff. I know its ******. I know that I trust him more than that. But this is really the first time I have heard about something like this. Ryan told me this morning that he remembers more of what happened. And that she was grabbing his butt. Thats why my sister came over and pushed her off of him! yeah, go sister! But it just is not sitting right with me. I can't wait until I turn 21. I will let that chick know who I am!

12-11-2007, 09:55 AM	#4
Little WH Junior Administrator Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: whjuniorad[at]hotmail[dot]com Posts: 1,808 Blog Entries: 4	DON'T FIGHT HER. Girls like that just want to be validated by a fight. Do like I said. Insult her. Make a joke of her. Don't give her the pleasure of your anger. He could have been ignoring her completely, and the way some girls are, they'd just keep coming.

12-11-2007, 10:09 PM	#5
jen0519 VIP Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 91	I know. Trust me, its not like me to get in a actual fight! But I am almost for sure that I know who she is. I want to find out and make her realize that Ryan would have never touched her! Most girls around here are pretty respectful of me. They stay away from Ryan. But there is always that girl who knows me and doesn't care. Thats what gets me the most! Deep inside I would like to just hit her, but I have never been to jail and I don't ever plan on going! Some ****** girl isn't worth that! I hate being jealous! I never get like this. Anyway, I can't wait to be 21 just so I can go out and have fun with my husband! It seems like I am so much older than I am and so it will be nice to go out with adults and get to see the fun side of adulthood once!