imported_scared

I got married 3 months ago to man i love and adore very much. But i did the biggest mistake ever, i lied to him. Before i met my husband i had a boyfriend for 3 years. In those 3 years i didnt have sex with him. It took me a long time to get out of that but then meeting my husband was the best thing that ever happened. Recently, my husband started questioning me about my previous relationship and all i wanted was to safe gaurd our marriage so i lied on certain issues. My stupid mistake!!... And now he is questioning whether i was virgin when we got married since there wasnt any bleeding nor did he see any hymen. What do i do?? My marriage in 3 months is on the rocks and he's not willing to listen to anything i have to say... He's threatening to give up on this marriage before it's even started... i messed up i knw... there was no reason to lie but i just didnt want him to judge me based on anything i did in my college days since i had grown out of it all... and now he's doing just that and i dont know what to do about it all?? AM desperate... do any of u'll out there have any advice for me??

AFemaleProdigy

I suggest that you sit down and have a heart to heart talk with him. Tell him what you just told us about why you lied. Also, I personally feel that the past is the past and we should not pass so much judgement on past relationships. The only way to get through something like this is with open communication. You certainly don't want to lie anymore. Make him see how important this is to you and how much you love him.

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~Jessica