Thread: am i trapped n cn u help

Originally Posted by anonymouswhitefemale

I'm a guy.

I know it's easier said than done, but you really do need to put your own needs first. You aren't going to have a fulfilling life if you stay where you are, and if you do stay - even if your life IS fulfilling, you will still always wondered what you missed/lost from your decision to stay. Which to be honest will probably make you resent this man, subconciously or not.


I think you need to leave him. I know he's going to suffer, but I don't think you can be expected to raise someone elses children. Call me selfish but the responsibilities of raising a child are a total pain in the bum... I wouldn't go through that if it's not my blood... I'd go elsewhere and raise my own...

When i was 17, i left home, needed a job, so i became a Nanny. The guy thought that i was 23, plus i had long blonde hair, thin and if i can say not bad looking, so i know, that played a part, well i established that along the way.

The point is, i was doing something way over my head, at way to young an age, living in my own room, and no i never slept or went out with the father, but i cared for a 6 and 8 year old girl. I cooked, clean, i was the "mother".

I couldn't cope, i bought a cat, and that's when i realised i had to go, i was searching for something a receptionist job came up and i went and located a nice 2 bedroom flat, took the cat, the job and never ever looked back. Other people's children can wait, but actually, it was more of any children can wait. I was, 17...

Again, the point being you are 18. It's easy to fall for "lust" but you are at the beginning of a whole new world. A whole new excitment in friends, work, interests, and men.

So, don't feel bad, if sex is all you have, you'll have that again....

Take the job... Take your life, you only live once....