Thread: fantasy world

Originally Posted by shapingup

My husband and I have been marriage 10 years when we have sex the only way I'm stimulated is by fantasy about other sexual thing. does anyone have advice or does the same thing, I am tring to understand why i do this

Obviously i would love the answers to those questions i posted but how about this:-

The fact that you have been together for 10 years and still obviously have some intensity of sex is beautiful.

Some women have all the faith and trust and communication with their better half that they can open up and tell what it is that they want and like, including in the bedroom.

Some hide their inibitions and desires and fear to do so so therefore, do it secretly such as fantasise of what they would love to be doing, saying.

And, there may be not enough emotion and love but a love and bond, therefore, fantasy is necessary as you are a woman and still want to feel those feelings during sex.

And then their is religion, that steps in the way of the way a male perceives a woman to act, even if the inner self is dying to be different.

If your holding back then stay here and visit other sites, read books join womens groups and open yourself to being the woman you obviously now want to be.

If it is the situation and you feel you can't talk to him, then i refer to another post that defines " i didn't really know him" ...

However, maybe both of you if this is the situation have never opened enough to discuss what you "feel"?

Obviously 10 years and your still there and sex is good even though your visualising as that is fantasy as well, and seeing things, therefore you need, want more.

That is perfectly normal if you are in or close to your 30's.

So in this instance, if your love is deep then don't stress it's normal.

But maybe you should communicate a little more never know what is inside of him either, what he is thinking at that time? What he would love to do with his love for you.

I've answered every angle i can think of.

I have been in love before, not the sexual love that i want and will have but the soul and desire and lust at least that has lead me to experiment and trust.

Let me just say:- My Grandmother was my "soul mate" he was yet to arise but i think he has how.

Taking sex out of it, when i wanted to know anything, talk about anything share anything i turned to her.

That is love. It' s a different type of un-conditional. We both accept who we are and try to help and guide.

Still wished i knew my answers to my questions but i hope one of these therefore fits it.