Thread: How do you find out if husband has posts?

But how can you ever know that nothing is going on? All you can find out is that nothign was going on THAT TIME. Then if your spouse finds out you are snooping, it becomes a technological arms race - track covering software vs. track finding software. Since likely neither of you really understand the software, can you know what is really going on?

Most likely you will find ambiguous information. They had lunch together. Maybe some slightly flirtatious emails. Doesn't mean they are sleeping together - though they might be. If her emails suddenly stop, does that mean he us using an anonymous account somewhere. Did he clear the history on the computer just to speed things up, or is he hiding somethig. Was the Google search for "divorce" to answer a friends question or random curiosity - or is he thinking about it. Is he really the person posting as XYZZY to "Women's Health", or does that person just sound like him.

I really do understand the desire to know - but I just don't think is is possible to ever know that he is NOT cheating. You look and look, and eventually find something that convinces you that he is.

Originally Posted by CM2008

I agree that you have the right to check to validate the situation (if you suspect something is going on). If there's nothing going on, that's great, now back to life. No harm done. At least you are not living in doubt and distrust. You need the truth. I'd say trust your instincts.