i have some burning questions if anyone has answers ....
for some months now my husband has been acting all strange and elusive. There are unexplained occurances. First, i found another persons hair on his hair brush ( he comes home 2 to 3 times a week due to the nature of his work) when i questioned him, says that it could be mine... its not! then he says he doesnt know. next was remnants of sperm on tissues (3) in his bin. Says that it could be his... what do you mean could i ask ? he says - I dont know Sarah. ... has no explanation. He brings home his laundry once a week, recently his underwears has been short .. it used to be 5 to 6 pairs a week... now its only 2 to 3 but he never forgets his full load of smelly socks! Then there is the text messaging ... he deletes his messages and call records since he found out I was checking his phone. Then a few months back, i developed some rash/ itching on my groin area .. it looks more like a fungal infection and I also developed yeast infection. My GP says it could be due to frequent or unclean sex... HE HAS SEX WITH ME ONCE EVERY 4 TO 5 WEEKS ... i'm tired is his excuse. Recently he has become a more seasoned lover and did things to me that he never did before. I know he cheated but now he has gone overseas for work on a 2 year contract. I feel so ... what do I do ? did he cheat on me... I confronted him twice and he swears he is faithful. And what about this flaking itching that I am having ? does anyone know what it is ? Now he accuses me of being paranoid and dramatic

If I recall correctly, most people that suspect their loved one is cheating turns out to be correct. While your evidence by itself could have simple explanations, the d*mning evidence is the text messaging. Erasing his messages and call records shows that he is hiding things from you. So, taking all of this in as a whole really dosen't paint a good picture and I'm sure you probably have some other instances that doesn't make sense either.

Two years is a long time to give up for someone who is proabably cheating on you.

I'm sorry...

I guess i am with damd on the texting thing.

Thrush, "itching", can also be caused from wrong soaps, nylon pants, but on the same accord, it can be passed from one partner to another.

Sperm in tissues, could be that you two aren't having sex, and he is having sex on his own.

Men can wash their own undies, unless he's not thinking there, and still hand them in, but also he could have become lazy and wears them over two days... ahh. but anyways.

Deleting text messages, well...... no need to if nothing to hide, no need to wind you up either.

Constantly stating i don't know, or your wrong, or i'm not....

And, 2 years, well if you think this now, then imagine what you'll be thinking over and over, throughout that time, it will eat at you anyway and the relationship will fold.

There obviously is not enough intimacy, in your relationship and won't be now...

If you truly think he's cheating then you deserve better...

Go with your instinct girl!! Nothing beats that when it comes to cheating spouses. And 9.5/10, the instincts are right!

Find something concrete to support your suspision or to clear him. In the mean time, use a condom.

Am truly sorry about what you are going through..........

The overall picture is pretty damming (I would spell it right but it would be censored :S ), but I dont think the phone thing means as much as damd and CW say.. I'd delete my messages if someone was checking them, even with nothing to hide, because I dont like being spied on. Also, my phone doesnt have much memory so I have to delete them often anyway.