Thread: I'm engaged! Any advice on living arrangements?

acacialost
I am sort of half moved in but I am renting a room off of a friend as well. I sort of feel like moving in together will cheapen the experience of marriage. Any opinions on that? Is it logical to keep two dwellings or am I just letting bad past experiences haunt me? Thanks everyone!

I don't think it has anything to do with the past, or it shouldn't. If this man makes you feel everything you have ever wanted to feel in a relationship, then past experiences need to be kicked to the curb. As "past".

I lived with my ex-husband before we married and established all the bad habits, at least i knew what i was dealing with therefore.

But, truthfully, i then felt married.. before i walked down the isle, although we lived in my house, and once married, lived in his, so at least it was different.

I love the idea of "sharing bodes", it's kind of independant, whilst being together and i think a great way to go.

As for pondering about family, where, how many, when.

As you are getting married, you both need to discuss this together so you know where your heading and what both partners want.

I did discuss this with my ex-husband and we decided on having 1 child, mind you i was an older bride.

Strangly, once married, out came the can't afford, not bringing a child into this world, etc? So make sure you both are 100% set on what you want and know it, as mine did a little fib so it seems, perhaps that's why i am separated, heading for divorce....

CW