Thread: Im in shock

It's easy for me to say leave that disgusting, piece of pig. And in all honesty, you should. But you have a past with him, and 20 years is a long time, so you know what? You won't leave. Women never do, for whatever reason. So many of us have such low self esteem. But remember this. The man who did this? Doesn't love you like he always told you he did. I'm sorry to be so painfully blunt, but no matter how much pleading, begging, "I love you's" are thrown around right now, did he love you while he was screwing the other woman (or women) God knows how many times while you sat at home cooking him a nice meal? Cleaning? Working? Yeah, I don't think so.

I'd take it as a total loss and start fresh. Tell him if he wanted to be with that other woman so bad that it was worth breaking your heart and ruining your life, that here's his big chance, and tell him to go to her.

I'm so sorry, honey. You deserve so much more.

no doubt you are mad and feel betrayed those are both healthy first responses. I can't say i would feel any different if in the same situation. Should you stay and fight or should you leave.....

How old is the other child? Do you have children? How did you find this information out? How did your husband react when confronted by the fact you know he has another child. Are you the type of people who seek healing in any given situation?

How far does this betrayal go? Has he financially been supporting this child behind your back for how ever old this child is?

Have you had a wonderful life with your husband up till this point or have you had a rollercoaster life full of hurt and little joy with this man?

If you have had a wonderful life (with the normal ups and downs) and are willing to forgive and understand this situation then stay. If at every point in the road he is and always making the wrong choice in life then well leave cause you deserve to have a good life.

After 20 years atleast hear his side of this omittance of great importance cause if you decide to leave it may be the closure you need.

I hope you find peace in your day