Thread: husband moved out

Need some advice. My husband moved out April 20th. We have been going thru some problemsprior because he had cheated he said one time with a girl who we both new. She was always in love with him. I went to laughlin with some girlfriends of mine. He said if I went he would move out. little history. Last july he said if I went on a cruise that I was the maid of honor for he would do the same. Trip was paid for already but I chose my family of course instead. Married for 20 years with three children, 19,16,11. We have a beautiful home that we have been in for 11 years. He has not made a house payment, or any payments since the move. Even though I want this to work out I had to take him to court for a legal separation. That was the advice of my pastor. My husband wants me to walk away from the house also and move in with him to a 3 bedroom apt, he says it shouldn't matter where we live , if I love him we can live in a card board box. I took him to court because of money. 20 years he moves out and takes all the money and gives me nothing almost forcing me to have to move there to an apt. We are upside down in the house so I can't sell it. I can't make the payment with the support that the courts gave me. We were getting along again just fine last week until my lawyer subpoena his job for proof of salary. He called me up and yelled and said a lot of hurtful things. He is a born again Christian which he goes to Revival almost 4 times a week. This is what is so confusing to me. Doesn't the Church say to love your wife, family first. He has showed no desire to me to want this marriage to work but yet wants me to go live there. Even when I found out about the affair two years ago he not once tried to make it any better. That girl was also married. Now, my daughter told me that he brought a co-worker lunch on friday. He lied to her when she asked who it was for. When she went upstairs at his work she was eating it. Then on Sunday she overheard a conversation, he invited himself over to her house for dinner. My daughter said her response was I am already in my p.js and my hair is up in a pony tail. Please help me. When I told him about this he said he is doing nothing wrong and that it was a joke? I guess the joke was let me see if she says yes . Would he have taken my daughter to her house? Making my daughter lie to me? Is it ok bringing co-workers food when your not even scheduled . 20 years is a long time and I do really love this man, but get nothing in return.