Hi my name is sharon and I am 44 yrs old with 11 yr old twin girls. I am having
alot of problems in my marriage, mainly a cheating husband. I dont want to have sex with him anymore and I am at a lost on what to do. Any feedback,
I need someone to talk to.

WELCOME to our Womens-Health forum! It's great to have you! Hopefully we can helpa ya turn that frown upside down!!

So sorry to hear you are going through a rough time. Hopefully you can find happiness & strength on this site.
You should decide if you are willing to forgive your husband & work through the problems that made him stray. It's your desicion to work it out or not.
Hope you get some good advise here.

I dont know if I can trust my husband anymore. I think he would cheat again if the oppertunity was there. I cant stand the thought of sleeping with him
knowing that he disrespected me to that level. I am just at a lost of what to do. I just feel used and stupid for putting up with that. A lot of so called freinds knew about this, and I feel that they think I am weak and stupid for putting up with this. If not for the kids I would leave him. I did so a few months back, but I let him move back in with me, am I crazy or what? I just need to vent and get other opinions. thanks for the support. sharon

Hi Sharon! I'm sure this site will help you to resolve the issue for you children's well-being. You must be strong in this situation, especially if everyone else thinks you are weak! You should confront your husband and TALK to him to make the situation better. If he is ignoring you or keeping distance, it is probably because he knows he did something terrible. Deep down, he is probably just looking for you forgiveness. Hope this helps!

Sharon, I"m new here today, read your post and had to reply. We are about the same age, and I was betrayed about 6 years ago and I am here to say to you, if you want your marriage and your husband does too, it CAN work. I still live with pain, but it is so much better. It has left me a different person both physically and emotionally. I now suffer health problems, such as Fibromyalgia (one reason I found this board!), but our marriage lived through it.
I'm so sorry for the emotional pain you are suffering because I thought I would die from the pain. But the good news is, things can work out. Please feel free to vent, cause I met 2 of the most important people in my life during that time. They were other women who were like me and we bonded and held each other during that time. There are alot of support groups on the web, and if you have Church counseling, that is a GODSEND, use it. And there is the most absolute wonderful BOOK that helped me as well, if you are interested, I will give you the name (I'll have to find it first!). But I found alot of helpful things to help me. Please do the same, cause I know how debilating betrayal is. My husband was having an affair with a coworker that perhaps went on for almost 2 years. I had other people that knew too. I'm sure you have most if not all the same feelings I did. If there is anything I can do, other than listen, please let me know. I care.

kaymac