maryann1603

Whoever can help please do-

I have recently moved in with my boyfriend- i love him to death and i know he feels the same for me. We were so excited to get this place and his dog even moved in with us- but im confused. Most of the time dan and i are so happy- we play and laugh its great. But sometimes he gets angry over the tiniest things and they turn into huge things- he throws things, screams, wont let me touch him and has pushed me around (not hit me but just pushed me hard). Ive talked to him about it and he's agreed to get anger management but its more than that. I always wanna hug him and kiss him and just be happy and he gets annoyed- im not always on top of him but if after an whole morning of sitting on opposite sides of the couch i'll try to snuggle with him and he'll say "im not in the mood mar!" stuff like that.
The other night he went to the flyers game and got wasted- he didnt cvome home til 3 and didnt even call until about 3 to sasy he was on his way- i know he was at his friends house- his friend told me too besides i just know dan. I talked to him about it and he said he didnt call cause he didnt want me to fight with him about being drunk or out late. he was very apologetic but i dunno even when he does something wrong he'll apologize and then be mean to me. does that make sense?

What do i do?? Sometimes i feel like he doesnt even like me....and sometimes i know he loves me it changes every minute.


is this just common stress from living together?

CHANDLERS WISH

Ask yourself firstly, whether there was any "anger" or "pushing" before you moved in together.

Does he come from a loving family that are touchy feeling or "cold" family.

Either way, it's serious i am sorry but he can not do this to another person and one day he may absolutely explode. Violence is violence you are seeing small signs that will escalate.

He may also have problems dealing with the little wife. You.. He may still be very independent and not feel that he should have to tell you what time he will get home... This two is wrong if you are in a committed relationship and move in together, as it is just respectful to do so, women worry.

Cuddles on the couch, not in the mood yet you have so much fun together. There's not much sticking in this relationship other than a great friendship don't you think.

So i guess absolutely he needs Anger Management, and you need to discuss calmly together what the issues are and try to get it into a relationship or else really, you just have friendship that is abusive and why would you be happy with that? Because of the fun things you do, and time together which makes you feel love?

CW

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I was treated badly by my x husband! He used to throw things at me and call me names. Other days he was lovely! No one knew what was going on behind closed doors, I felt very lonley! He stripped me of my self confidence! He had had an awful childhood and subsequentely took it out on those closest to him...me! It was a very sad situation but I couldn't be his punch bag, he needed professional help that I couldn't provide! I tired for almost five years but one morning I snapped out of what felt like a trance, I left and never set eyes on him again!
I'm not saying leave if it's not right for you...but it was for me! I am now married to the most amazing man, my best friend and my lover, he was worth the wait!
Think very hard about what YOU want and what makes YOU happy and go for it. I wish you every happiness in the future and with love, luck and laughter to you

Victoria