Thread: Tips On Body Language

I like it when its just you and i online - means im first to reply

Hmm, interesting....

I dont do anything purposefully... but i do notice when i do things subconciously (and usually chuckle to myself at the time) - such as twirl my hair around my finger whilst he is talking to me or lightly touch his arm when he makes a funny remark...

Prior to this, if i see someone who i think is going to make my bones ache, all i usually do is catch and hold his gaze or if im feeling particularly naughty, i'll catch his gaze and bite my lip or run my finger across my lip. (again, this just seems to happen - i dont have the intention to be naughty...honest)

Walk tall, shoulders back, don't cross my arms too much (I have a habit of doing that - I think it's cool but it probably looks defensive), don't lean in to a woman too much, as that puts you in a subservient position, too eager and needy... Looks that say 'I'll get you screaming' etc.

Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

I met a guy once, that sat forward, was attentive, complimented, googled and laughed, "how to seduce a woman to get her into bed", there was a lot more he did but it was a 1 - 10 and he tried the whole lot, damd he didn't succeed me smart.

So tell..


CW

Please re-phrase this I'm so confused?


I have read countless books on body language. Its actually one of my most interesting topics. In fact, 55% of communication is visual (body language, eye contact) and 38% is vocal (pitch, speed, volume, tone of voice), 7% is actually the words.

In learning to become a more social being especially to women I had to learn what they were communicating with there BL.

I wrote a book on this topic actually. Be a little more descriptive with what your looking for and i will be able to help.

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Originally Posted by miffed23

I dont do anything purposefully... but i do notice when i do things subconciously (and usually chuckle to myself at the time) - such as twirl my hair around my finger

Its a sign of vulnerability. It means that your rather submissive, or at least you know subconsciously that men like to take control so you are feeding what you believe will enhance your chances of him finding you attractive.

whilst he is talking to me or lightly touch his arm when he makes

You touching his arm is you pretty much telling him that it is ok for him to advance in kinesthetics. Its also you not wanting him to forget you.

Psychological studies show that casual touching during a friendly conversation causes people to remember the conversation more fondly after the fact

a funny remark...

Not all the things we laugh at are actually funny.
Laughter is a sign of drooping your shield. Thats why when someone makes fun of the boss and the boss laughs, everyone knows that its "safe"

Laughter can also be considered a bonding agent. Thats why when you go to comedian you usually say "I love him" when you leave.

The jokes no longer receive the acclaim but the comedian does.

People like to be vulnerable. Men and women. Thats why women typically laugh at jokes when a man she finds attractive tells them. She is pretty much saying that she feels safe with him.

All women want to feel secure when they are with there man thats why women find funny men attractive.

Prior to this, if i see someone who i think is going to make my bones ache, all i usually do is catch and hold his gaze or if I'm feeling particularly naughty, I'll catch his gaze and bite my lip or run my finger across my lip.

This is going to get a little sexual I hope you dont mind.

Biting your bottom lip is a indication that you had a "guilty thought".

Women subconsciously link there lips to there genitalia so any thoughts of sexual arousal will be exposed.

(again, this just seems to happen - i dont have the intention to be naughty...honest)

It is all subconsciously, You cant help it.

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+ 1 on what livelaughlove said, with a caveat. if you "try" to control body language it may not send the message you really want to. people pick up on when things are staged. If you want a person to like you, be you.

BTW LLL, if you dont mind would you please PM me the title or ISBN? I'd be interested in reading it. At work we are spending an awful lot of time on linguistic statement analysis, and kinda lost focus the body language piece.

I do agree with No1 in not staging your body language. The pick up artist thing, is a turnoff and unless ultra experienced at it, comes across forced and unnatural.
When I am attracted to someone, I smile a lot, give eye contact, laugh and make witty teasing conversation, but I have to feel it and in truth they do too. It’s a 2 way thing.

I have also found that when speaking to someone I am attracted to, my voice lowers. Maybe a subconscious tactic on my part…it brings us in closer

Originally Posted by N01

+ 1 on what livelaughlove said, with a caveat. if you "try" to control body language it may not send the message you really want to. people pick up on when things are staged. If you want a person to like you, be you.

BTW LLL, if you dont mind would you please PM me the title or ISBN? I'd be interested in reading it. At work we are spending an awful lot of time on linguistic statement analysis, and kinda lost focus the body language piece.

Its a collection of thoughts and notes that I gathered. Its not something you can buy over the counter sorry. lol

I sometimes hold dating seminars for men and women so its what I use.

What type of BL are you interested in?

BL to understand humans or underlying sexual BL that men and women subconsciously communicate?

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Originally Posted by tropicalgrl1

The pick up artist thing, is a turnoff and unless ultra experienced at it, comes across forced and unnatural.

If you can tell he is "Picking you up" then he is not good at it. He is communicating way too much interest too soon.

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