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Reply With QuoteThere are some kids with real medical problems that cause behavioral problems. But his parents should have been around.
Kids!
CW - here or motherhood? Sowwy.. im clueless...
Right true story:
A boy, he was little over 8 years old was walking around town yesterday generally being a pain in the a*s. (Bear in mind that by town i mean really small community with a few shops)
He walked up to this old gentleman and knocked his shopping right out of his hand.. it took all my strength not to punch this kid... instead, (you will laugh) i chased him for about 5 minutes, flat out in circles with him yelling about me being old and fat (im 23 and a UK size 8) Finally, he stopped, asked me 'what the f*ck is your problem' so i grabbed his wrist and dragged him back to this old man and threatened him to apologise or else i will take him immediately into care (told him that i worked for social sevices blah blah... i dont...) He actually bought my story... fool.
I was furious, if his mother had been there she probably would have floored me... luckily i was full of adrenalineBut of course, i knew that she wouldnt be around, she was probably in the pub (yes, im being stereotypical)
The poor old man got a full apology and i walked him back to his door... it wasnt neccessarily a terrible crime, but this gentleman was visibly shook up...
What / who do you think is to blame for the majority of childrens behaviour in this day and age?
Personally, i think a huge downfall is the 'frowned upon' attitude to smacking. Geez, i used to have red bum cheeks after my papa smacked me... i think i said the word 'hate'
Children arent afraid of their parents anymore, i know that sounds terrible, but i was petrified of upsetting my mother or making my father angry, yet it made me love and respect them more than anyone else in the world.
Views?
“As you regonise that you already own the wholeness you seek, and no one outside you can give you more than you already are, dysfunctional situations will evaporate like bad dreams exposed to the morning sun.”
There are some kids with real medical problems that cause behavioral problems. But his parents should have been around.
No really, they 'hang' in packs... it must have something to do with the area that i live in... there is nothing to do and everyone trusts everyone... he really was alone... i would have had a good hiding otherwiseOriginally Posted by rcoreyus
“As you regonise that you already own the wholeness you seek, and no one outside you can give you more than you already are, dysfunctional situations will evaporate like bad dreams exposed to the morning sun.”
You are abosolutley right miff
It's because there there's no fear of retribution for doing wrong, because there are no retributions!
If I as a kid continue to do wrong & I don't have a "Healthy Fear" of what will happen when I do then naturally I will continue.
And that my friends is exactly why we have such a terrible crime rate and our prisons are full of rebellious people, that don't like being told what to do.
Am I not right?
Yes?
No?
So you took the bull by the horns.
Miffed. I can see you doing that, I can visualise this little English Town with not much in it, and you running after this kid...
I imagine that those children are free-er than in Cities, as the Town is so small and seems a bit ferile, no respect , probably tells their Mothers get f....
Unfortunately, he will go back to his own ways, you just put fear into him, pity that his Parents won't ever know that it is a simple as that, to change attitude.
Glad really that you did that, personally I would have waited and waited and had a go at the parent, lol...
The old man would appreciate what you did and that's the man thing.
Guess when you have kids, you will remember these things and as a result god help your kid, haha, only joking.
Good for you.
The heading says it all, i think Lounge is a good place for it.
CW
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
I agree with miffed, smacking worked. Not beating kids but showing them who's boss. I was smacked once and only once at a young age and I dare not defy my parents, If the answer's no then I don't ask again.
Like this for example, silly but it gives you an idea:
When I was 14 I had a bf called Joe. We were sitting over the park and It was nearly time to go home so he told me to ring home and ask if I could stay out longer...I was like '...but...I can't...they said...' And I'm the same now.
I see parents out with their kids that hit them unnecessarily and it takes a of a lot for me to not say anything! Then I see people out shopping and their kids are running riot! Not only winding up their parents but terrorizing everyone in the shop as well and the whole time I think "for goodness sake smack your child!!"
Theres a group of kids about the age of 10-12 that hang around the shops where I live and their deliberately out to cause trouble. If you're walking into a shop they'll shove you out of the way, or shout in your face or push you out of the way in queue. Theres one girl in particular who'd I'd just love to get the chance to head butt!
"You know the way a poem sometimes makes an absurd connectionThat's himLyrically professing his affection...""Never humour a fool for he will think he is a wise man"
Rather then smacking us because my Dad never agreed with the idea, he used to flick us on the head. Nothing major but it hurt and it worked
"You know the way a poem sometimes makes an absurd connectionThat's himLyrically professing his affection...""Never humour a fool for he will think he is a wise man"
Kids these days! I tell you, when *I* was growing up we knew how to behave. Walked 2 miles to school every day - in the snow - uphill - both ways. If we so much as forgot to say "sir" our parents would beat us with a cane, then lock us in the coal cellar with the rats. Of course we were happy about the rats - good eating rats. Food was scarce back then......
Even though i agree that a few spankings are in order when it comes to bad behavior it doesn't always solve the problem.
I dont have any kids... Well atleast that i know of. haha
But i do have nephews that live laterally down the street from me. So there over alot. Well my sister and her husband slap there kids when they misbehave. They will not do something if they know it will result in a beating.
As an above poster said a healthy fear and respect may a child to rethink before he does something but it wont always stop them. As they grow up there just testing there boundaries. If they know they can't push you around or walk all over you then they will be much more reluctant to act out. My nephews if there doing something wrong and they hear my foot steps they stop. They are more afraid of me then there own parents, and I never touched them.
My understanding is that if you present yourself as a Secure and mature adult they will respect you and if you show weakness they will walk all over you.
Honestly some parents are too busy with there own lives these days they dont have time for there children which is sad
This is my own understanding im sure the parents here may have better insights.
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I agree. Many kids nowadays are simply not disciplined, because parents have somehow gotten it mixed up with the word 'abuse’ or they are simply not consciously present in the child’s life. As a result, we simply give children too much power and they are ill equipped to handle it; all children need to be aware of boundaries and consequence of actions.
Regardless of the situation of the parents, one thing is certain, children play on the emotional weaknesses of parents. It takes being a strong one to discipline from a calm rational place. My mother did a good job in that area.
Oh yes, we got spanked by my mom, and I remember that when it happened it was a calm affair. There was no rage involved, It was: these are the rules, you break them there will be consequences.
We are all responsible for raising the next generation. Sometimes it takes someone besides the parents because they are either incapable at the time or in some unfortunate cases, shouldn’t be parents in the first place.
Creativity is the ability to illustrate what is outside the box from within the box.
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