Thread: To treat the way one acts?

Not at all !

treat them the way they need to be treated depending on the situation. sometimes it's the same way, sometimes it's 180 degrees off. kinda depends on what the "issue" involved is.

I agree with N01. I believe that you are a product of your environment. People have reasons for behaving the way they do. That doesn't mean we should dis/encourage it. Sometimes we need a kick in the head for actling like a spoiled brat - sometimes we don't.

I know in my own life i want to be treated however i should be treated in a specific situation. Therefore i endeavor to treat one the same way as I would like to be treated - Is not that said to be the golden rule!

But, like N01 said, it maybe a circumstance may call for lets say, mercy, compassion, severity, firmness, a matter of fact, to the point type way, or whatever ever one may feel is required at the moment.

If we continually caudal ones flaws it does not help, does it?

Myself, i like the truth, I don't like to beat around the bush. But to honest there are times when i feel i need a little compassion in a matter just because i maybe having a tough time dealing with the truth.

Well, this thread wasn't about me and how i am so again i'd say, one needs to be treated however one sees it at the time, depending on the situation

Good thread JWB!

miffed, i do treat people the way i want to be treated. even if someone tells me how bad they are, or things they do wrong etc... i give them the benny of the doubt.
prime example of this is one of good friends was in jail for stealing. he never stole from me but he had his problems growing up. when he got out i gave him the benny and he has proven me right. but he still gets hassled here and there from people and why, because his actions from the past. speaking of which, he will tell you that i kept his tail out of trouble too. he thanks me to this day.

its just i see how some people are. some dwell on things, some take things to an extreme, and some just brush stuff off like it never happened.

i have this friend that is divorced. and she will sleep with just about anyone, even knowing him for a few hours. and she does this all the time. she is so easy we can say. anyway, should she be treated like an easy person? alot of people do and she doesnt see why she is called certain names. i try to tell her the nicest way possible that what she does but she doesnt get the concept. and that is why she is divorced. she cheated on her husband.

wich brings me to cheaters. isnt it once a cheater, always a cheater? kind of like a alocoholic is an alcoholic right? but i cant say that because if the alcoholic goes to meetings and does what he wants/has to do to stop drinking, he improved himself. and thats a good thing. so is he still an alcoholic?

or what about those kinds of people that take a subject that isnt that bad or a big deal and while they gossip with others they make a mountain of BS. and for what? to let people think they know things, or to create a bigger story. that reminds me of that one game while we were kids, i think it was called telelphone. where you start off saying one thing like an apple we'll say. by the time it gets back to you from going around in the circle you have a fruit basket from south america wrapped with a big yellow bow.

as i grew up my friends did their drugs, drank, and the normal kid things. but i didnt. i didnt like it, didnt want to do it, and i personally thought it was a waste of time and money. but i still hung out with them. and they grew up in time and many of them stopped. but because i hung out with them, was i judged by the ones that were my friends. i am sure i was by some. so that proves a wrong.

so basically miffed, i have mixed feelings about it. some good and some bad.
i guess the bottom line is it all depends on the person and sitsuation.

Originally Posted by JWB_pof

..., i do treat people the way i want to be treated. ....

If you mean with compassion, I can agree. But having compassion doesnt mean they are treated in the same manner. You can have compassion and be real strict; be real forgiving; be real angry; be real direective; and be real distant.

It's not the same. people react differently to different events, and need different things to get them motivated. sometimes it's the same for people, sometimes it just isnt.

you dont treat a new employee the same way you treat a more experienced one, unless the more experienced one acted in a manner that required that kind of treatment.

lost of stuff on line about situational leadership. rings true for other situations as well.

And if you ever read "The Prince" by Machiavelli, it can be said he had compassion too...

I know we can take the edge off the truth some. or lets say be diplomatic about it. but is it not true many times the truth is blunt, naturally