It was wonderful trip, had lots of fun and a few heart talks. My daughter in law is a sweet girl.
Naturally things came up about my marriage troubles and I said, well I'm not really here to talk about all that but they acted concerned and so we discussed it some.
My son and her is 2 that don't pic sides and I can appreciate that. I'm glad they are that way wouldn't want it any other. They're good kids, I'm very proud of him, his wife said after talking that I reminded her so much of him in the way we think, she just laughed and laughed, it was a special time. It was a start in getting to know 1 another better.
A strange thing happened while there, well, to me it was strange anyway. Before going to diner the 1st night his half sister shows up, my 1st wife's' daughter.
She looks just like my ex, she's actually more attractive than her, Anyway I found myself starring at her, it's like I could not help it. I would try so hard not to look at her but boy my mind kept going back in time thinking of her, I cant really explain it.
So then they decided to ask her to diner with us. While we were out I kept thinking, ya know I would like to make a 1st impression that she would go back to her mother and say ya know mom hes really not such a bad fellow after all. See I know the x has told her everything that had happened to us while married. But the fact is I'm not the same man anymore and I was hoping I could get that across. It's not I had to but I wanted to, you see what I'm saying? It was important to me.
So we're are sitting there and her mother calls on the cell and they talk a bit and she tell her mother that I'm there and all, then before she hangs up with her for some reason, I say let me talk to her. I think, just to see what she might say and/or just say hi and how ya doin and all. Well, she told her daughter I must be getting a bad signal and hung up. I felt bad then because i thot I really should have not put the x in that spot, and apologized to my son and he said dad don't worry about that she's really immature about some things.
Well I felt strange about the whole thing and I know it's not really a big deal but it was a rude reminder that she is still living in the past, big time! It was kind of like being slapped in the face. But, I'm not living in the past and I'm different so I rose above the issue accepting things the way they are. It is what it is.
After diner and she left my daughter in law was understanding of how I felt while she was there, she told me the half sister had a good time and she had no problems by what I did or said, that made me feel better.
My grandbaby is such a blast. Another thing he would say when I would get him laughing was," You crack me up Grandpa" Little did he know he was cracking me up!
It was like I was being rejuvenated inside.
I'm going back this weekend to celebrate her birthday. It's a pretty good trip but I had to come back to take care of things. I talked to them yesterday and discussed my conversation with my wife, the separation/divorce issue and she wanted to know if I would move there with them. I have tho't about it but I don't know, it's too soon and all.
I've talked to her some and it does not seem possible, making some last ditch efforts I guess. We are both so distant from 1 another in heart that is.
Then she starts to cry and it tears me up when she does that, I can't take it, so I have to end the conversation. It's aweful
Anyway, endeavoring to move forward and get on with things. It's complicated but I've faced complicated things before and somehow I know this to will
come too pass!




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