Thread: bloody uni!

The reason lots of relationships don't make it through college is because people are more apt to change and grow. Sometimes they grow away from each other, but you wouldn't want to deny your boyfriend a chance to grow as a person.
How far is far? As CW has pointed out, my boyfriend is in Iraq, which is about as far away from me as a person can get. Granted, there aren't pretty ladies or alcohol in Iraq I know it's worrisome, but you'll have your chance at college soon too and you'll be glad both of you went and broadened your horizons, whether you stay together or not.

I see why you're worrying.

Personally, I rarely see relationships survive university, and those that do are generally pathetic. Like, when you see them, you think : you're doomed, your life is mundanity. There's so many new experiences and new people at university that it's really not good to shut yourself off from. You were young when you got together, and you're still young. You should be seeing what's out there. He'd be missing out on a lot by going to a nearby university too, part of the whole thing is the new leaf and a blank slate, at least I think it is.

So, YOU should go to university, meet new people, and grow as a person. Your relationship will probably hold a few months, then strain and go sour. Maybe it's better to leave it at a good note, with a smile and a see you later, and allow each other to experience life, if there's still an attraction there's always the future.

I'm already at college little, we go to the same college at the moment so it's nice to see him round

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In all honesty I'm not planning on going to Uni, not for a while anyhow and I don't think I should pack it in altogether on the off chance it wont work....


The Unis he's looking at are about 4 hours away but theres one he's considering about an hour or so. I'd love for him to go I just don't want him far away, which you know anyway!

i know a few couples who have lasted through college/university and beyond. mostly because they had a committed relationship and grew/changed together. distance is a factor, but I dont think as much as the changes a person goes through during that age range.

there are lots of good looking women in iraq, wearing us military uniforms...

In the US, we call "university" college ... we call your "college" high school It took me a looong time to figure that out; in Mexican Spanish they do the same thing too.
There certainly are a lot of pretty ladies in Iraq in uniform and working as "fobbits," but there weren't any women at the last base my boyfriend was at. As for his current one, I don't know. I wasn't thinking now that he's out of BFI (that's Iraq instead of Egpyt! Haha) there might be women there.
In the US, 4 hours would be practically nothing but I understand transportation isn't as cheap in the UK as it is here. Don't lose heart just because he's going off to higher learning. You may just find a way to grow and learn with him right from home and it may work out. All you can do is live it every day.

Originally Posted by shweedart

I remember miffed saying she doesn't know of any relationships that have lasted through uni


Im scared

Shweedddd... way to make me feel badddddd.

Thats just my knowledge..im sure there are many people that have survived the university challenge (not the tv show )

I know a lot of couples that have started a relationship at uni and lasted the 3 years and beyond if that helps?

What are his views? Is he worried about your relationship? It also depends on what kinda person he is, if hes pretty laid back and has a hard time talking to other girls...thats a bonus, rather than him being a complete player.

4 hours isnt that bad. Can you drive? You might find that his timetable is favourable, like he might have a friday afternoon or monday morning off...that way you can spend long weekends together?

Im a great believer in fate, if you two are meant to be together, you will be.