Thread: things to think about

So many threads are about:
Love
Cheating
Being screw over
What should I do about…….

What I usually get out of those is that it always revolves around love. So maybe this thread can help others like some other threads might have helped.

What is love?
Love to me is a lot of things. Its something that cant be explained to an exact phrase or words. The other person you love is all that matters. No matter how attractive another is, the one you love is always the most attractive to you. It just something you feel. Its how happy one makes you feel as in when you meet someone how often do you think of them? Do you get a feeling inside of you that makes no sense? Do you find that you think of them all the time when your not together, missing them? And most important, you just cant waite to see them again.
You can tell that not a lot of things make you as mad or upset as the other person next to you. Being silly is fun and you laugh at almost anything. Your conversations just flow on any subject, even if they are about stupid things.

I have said before that I fell in love 2 times. And actually only 2 people here know some of the story. But I thought I was in love when I was dating them, but knew it after we broken up. I knew this because I find it hard to move forward at times. I think of her a lot, especially when there is some kind of holiday, event or when something comes up and reminds of her, such as something on tv, radio, or maybe even a picture or a place. We all been there and we think of our friends from the past or family. But for some reason we understand about them not being in our life anymore or very little. But when you think of your ex out of the blue for no reason at all, it isn’t that it was a lot time together, its because you actually was in love in them.

Friends come and go in our life. Some remain and become great ones. Some can be life long friends. But they are just friends and we know at one time or another they will meet someone and start to hang out with the one they date. They may even move away or out of state. And we accept that as that happens. Our parents are usually there for us all the time. They should pass away before we do and we accept that too. But when you love someone and they leave us we usually have a harder time accepting that. It isn’t the fact of being alone, but because we feel for them differently than our friendship or family.

Cheating / flirting:
Friends with benefits is one thing. Going out and having a one night stand is one thing. And having a relationship that is open is one thing. But how can one say they love another and cheat? That isn’t love. Cheating is a form of selfishness. It is human to think of another as pretty or handsome. We all dated someone and thought another is very attractive. I think its normal and human to think this. But like I said above, if you love someone, noone else matters. I don’t see it being wrong to say someone else is attractive but I have a saying and I thinkits a fair one, “YOU CAN WINDOW SHOP, JUST DON’T TOUCH THE MERCHANDISE”.
What I don’t understand is how some people can just ask if what they did was cheating. Come on now, if it contains doing something to another other than your wife/husband/girlfriend/boyfriend, then it is cheating. What I mean by that is if you go to your relatives house and give them a peck on the cheek for hello/goodbye, no big deal right? And we do that with our friends or someone we first meet. But to kiss someone with the tung and touch them where you normally don’t touch people, (gropeing) then you are cheating.
Think of it this way, are you going to slip you sister the tung or touch her breasts? No! so if you do that to others while dating someone, guess what, you cheated.
There is a difference between cheating and flirting also. But flirting has to have limits of some sort.

Being screwed over:
We all been in that boat before. Hopefully for the one and last time. It’s a shame people are the way they are these days. The morals and values have no meaning anymore. Our parents and grandparents had them. And each generation seems to lose more of it each day. Society has little meaning of values. It has become more acceptable to be in open relationships and stuff like that. Whos to really blame? Some may say tv because the soap operas, movies for excitement. Who knows for sure.
But we had or are going to get screwed over in our lives. We have to try to be strong. We go to our friends for advice and some of it is great advice and some not. Its what other may do and it might work for them but not everyone. Some dwell more than other, some rebel and are vengeful. But again, we fall. If you fall that saying is true about what doesn’t kill us will only make us stronger. And when we get back up, brush the dirt off our clothes, we actually stand a lot taller than before. And that shows a lot.
So for all who have been screwed over, start standing upright and be noticed that you are stronger than before.

What should I do?
Take advice from those who know you best, know the situation best. If you have to question things then something can point to yourself. But that doesn’t mean it always does. If you have a conscience it usually tells you right from wrong. If you have a heart, it usually tells right from wrong. Your gut feelings is almost correct 99.5% while your second guesses might be correct .05%. the saying trust your gut feeling…….. do just that. Talk to people and get thing off your chest and clear your mind. Possible seek help from professionals. These are just some of the things one can do. But most of all, always be yourself and try to clear your mind of the bad. Your happiness is your life, make it a happy one.