I'm horrible but this makes me happy.

**ThexMrs** · 05-20-2009, 06:14 PM

I talked to my ex boyfriend today. (You know the one) I was telling him my troubles and what's been going on with me. (He asked) The conversation seemed so depressing so I asked him for an upper. (Not a pill. A positive story) He said, "This isn't an upper for me but it might be for you." I asked him what it was and he told me, "Tracy (the woman he cheated on me with) left me over the weekend." I said that I was sorry to hear that and that it didn't make me happy. I told him that I want him to be happy. I then asked why. He said, "She is working two jobs and doesn't have the time." I said, wow... That is total bull *bleep* I said, If someone cares about you they can be working 10 jobs but they will still make time for you. He said, "I totally agree."

Truth be told... I was ecstatic that she left him. Does that make me horrible? I think it does. I do want him to be happy... Just happy alone. It's not fair of me to feel this way but I can't help it. I always knew that what he did with her wouldn't last. I knew it was a fling and someone (he) would get hurt. I wanted to say, "I hope it was worth it." I didn't though. I didn't want to rub it in his face. I called it in the beginning, told him this would happen but it only made him angry. Now he realizes I was right. She got what she wanted and left. Go figure. Honestly, I don't feel bad for him. I don't feel anything but happiness that this happened. I hope he learned a lesson. He gave up a year with me (and according to him, the best girlfriend he ever had) for a one month fling. Pathetic.

That's my rant... Or my vent. I don't know what to call it.

**Fallen1** · 05-20-2009, 06:22 PM

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Originally Posted by ThexMrs

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Truth be told... I was ecstatic that she left him. Does that make me horrible? ............

It doesn't make you horrible .... it just proves you're human. I think pretty much all of us that have been in situations where our significant other has left us for whatever reason have had the same feelings.

**Joy** · 05-20-2009, 06:26 PM

Naw it doesn't make you horrible i'm sure on one level it doens't make you happy he was dumped. Just on a bigger deeper level it does

**rcoreyus** · 05-20-2009, 06:27 PM

You can be horrible and human. But in this case I think you were just human - I think most people would feel the same way.

**Hopeless Dork** · 05-20-2009, 07:26 PM

I would feel the same for a while especially while my own wounds he created are still burning. I think once u feel more healed and happy it will become easier to wish him happiness and truly mean it, in all ways

**happy ending** · 05-20-2009, 11:00 PM

it serves him right, dont fall into the pity sex trap though. be strong and stay "just friends"! you dont want to be his fall back girlfriend.

**dr.mansview** · 05-20-2009, 11:00 PM

that's my rant or my vent..i don't know what to call it

just don't call it your next opportunity..you've been hurt enough..be strong and move on..there are many posters here pulling for you..if you need encouragment from us, just ask..we're in your corner..

**dr.mansview** · 05-20-2009, 11:05 PM

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Originally Posted by happy ending

it serves him right, dont fall into the pity sex trap though. be strong and stay "just friends"! you dont want to be his fall back girlfriend.

"happy ending" i swear our thots collided somewhere over hawaii at the same time..the EXACT same time..spooky

**happy ending** · 05-20-2009, 11:22 PM

hey yes that is pretty freaky - is it great minds think alike or small minds seldom differ in our cases LOL!!

**dr.mansview** · 05-20-2009, 11:30 PM

i'm sure it's the great minds one..BTW, hello "happy ending"..i know our minds have met but rest of us have not ben formally introduced..nice to make your acquaintance..

05-20-2009, 06:14 PM	#1
ThexMrs Veteran Member (800+ posts & member 1 year+) Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Oregon. Posts: 3,476 Blog Entries: 13	I'm horrible but this makes me happy. I talked to my ex boyfriend today. (You know the one) I was telling him my troubles and what's been going on with me. (He asked) The conversation seemed so depressing so I asked him for an upper. (Not a pill. A positive story) He said, "This isn't an upper for me but it might be for you." I asked him what it was and he told me, "Tracy (the woman he cheated on me with) left me over the weekend." I said that I was sorry to hear that and that it didn't make me happy. I told him that I want him to be happy. I then asked why. He said, "She is working two jobs and doesn't have the time." I said, wow... That is total bull bleep I said, If someone cares about you they can be working 10 jobs but they will still make time for you. He said, "I totally agree." Truth be told... I was ecstatic that she left him. Does that make me horrible? I think it does. I do want him to be happy... Just happy alone. It's not fair of me to feel this way but I can't help it. I always knew that what he did with her wouldn't last. I knew it was a fling and someone (he) would get hurt. I wanted to say, "I hope it was worth it." I didn't though. I didn't want to rub it in his face. I called it in the beginning, told him this would happen but it only made him angry. Now he realizes I was right. She got what she wanted and left. Go figure. Honestly, I don't feel bad for him. I don't feel anything but happiness that this happened. I hope he learned a lesson. He gave up a year with me (and according to him, the best girlfriend he ever had) for a one month fling. Pathetic. That's my rant... Or my vent. I don't know what to call it. __________________ "I carry your heart with me, I carry it in my heart, I am never without it, anywhere I go, you go, my dear, And whatever is done by only me is your doing, my darling."

05-20-2009, 07:26 PM	#5
Hopeless Dork Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: United States Posts: 2,189	I would feel the same for a while especially while my own wounds he created are still burning. I think once u feel more healed and happy it will become easier to wish him happiness and truly mean it, in all ways __________________ ------------- Defintion of Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." - Albert Einstein

05-20-2009, 11:00 PM	#7
dr.mansview Veteran Member (800+ posts & member 1 year+) Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: canada Posts: 1,212	*that's my rant or my vent..i don't know what to call it* just don't call it your next opportunity..you've been hurt enough..be strong and move on..there are many posters here pulling for you..if you need encouragment from us, just ask..we're in your corner.. __________________ a smart man learns from his mistakes..a wise man learns from the mistakes of others..

05-20-2009, 11:30 PM	#10
dr.mansview Veteran Member (800+ posts & member 1 year+) Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: canada Posts: 1,212	i'm sure it's the great minds one..BTW, hello "happy ending"..i know our minds have met but rest of us have not ben formally introduced..nice to make your acquaintance.. __________________ a smart man learns from his mistakes..a wise man learns from the mistakes of others..

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05-20-2009, 06:26 PM	#3
Joy Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 678 Blog Entries: 5	Naw it doesn't make you horrible i'm sure on one level it doens't make you happy he was dumped. Just on a bigger deeper level it does

05-20-2009, 06:27 PM	#4
rcoreyus March 2008 "Poster of the Month" Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 1,742	You can be horrible and human. But in this case I think you were just human - I think most people would feel the same way.

05-20-2009, 11:00 PM	#6
happy ending Veteran Member (800+ posts & member 1 year+) Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: western australia Posts: 915	it serves him right, dont fall into the pity sex trap though. be strong and stay "just friends"! you dont want to be his fall back girlfriend.

05-20-2009, 11:22 PM	#9
happy ending Veteran Member (800+ posts & member 1 year+) Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: western australia Posts: 915	hey yes that is pretty freaky - is it great minds think alike or small minds seldom differ in our cases LOL!!

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