coming out of shyness
Ay.......i have a serious problem. Im a very shy person but sometimes my shyness takes over me. Like on job interviews,social events,at work at times. Im tired of being that shy girl behind the scenes.i a want to meet new people without being that girl that nobody remembers.right now i dont know how to go about doing it........can sombody please help me?
Oh that's tough... Not everything works for everyone. I was always very shy and then one day I decided that I wasn't going to be that way anymore. I would walk into parties and demand attention (okay so I wouldn't really demand it) but I made it known that I was there and chatted up everyone!
You just have to be confident in who you are. Don't hang back and let everyone else take the spotlight. Demand it! Don't be obnoxious though. Just hold your head high and say hello.
"All the beats and melodies keep realities at bay but what happens when the records done and starts to fade away? Alone within myself again, I try to veil away my pain. The dirty grey surrounding me 'round..... And now I hear no sound."
Both my kids were "shy". I really dislike that lable, it has a negative conotation in US society. I prefer "socially reticent". Think of your self as selective in whom you associate with - nothing wrong with that.
I think this comes in two catgories - there are the people who lack confidence and are socially akward and then there are the HSPs, the highly sensitive people. HSPs are very perceptive and aware and can find the non HSPs a bit overwhelming sometimes. About 10% of any sentient population are HSPs. There are some books about us, why not get ahold of one and read it. I found just understanding what I was very helpful and it helped me find ways to use my HSP characteristics more to my advantage.
You know, with my kids I never pushed, I required that they be polite and greet people but did not force interaction. I found ways for them to deal with people in smaller groups and never made being "shy" a fault. They are both confident, pretty socially capable young people now. Take baby steps, just resolve to start greeting people- say hello(or smile) to at least 10 strangers a day.
i also was very shy growing up..in highschool i had only 1 date, and the girl asked me..but i didn't care because i too busy playing baseball,basketball,volleyball,hockey..but i had a lot of female friends in school because i was good at math and typically girls are poor at math..they were always asking for help..when i got my first full time job i worked at a place where 60% of employees were women..at break time i would just say "anybody want coffee"..after a while at break time the girls would just say "hey doc i'll take a coffee"..didn't need to ask..try that "renee69"..and when you see a fellow employee, say hi and smile..that will definitely get the men's attention.
a smart man learns from his mistakes..a wise man learns from the mistakes of others..
Whilst I am a strong believer in "be yourself" there is nothing wrong with a small makeover to make you feel even better, confident.
How about taking a look and establishing if you can change your hair colour, wardrobe a little and walk out in feeling totally different in yourself, yet still being that person you are.
CW
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
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