All relationships and attraction have a sexual element. I'm still thinking about all of this, I think it's like a hunger that hasn't been sated or an itch that you can't quite reach. Many people have a deep hunger they need to fill and don't know how. The hunger is for connection and love at a deeper level. It's really a need to connect to the energy stream of life, to their soul group. Because we live so disconnected from our nature as beings that see themselves as somehow not part of all life they never feel any true satisfaction in their relationships. So they turn to extremes to try to fill the void. They subsititute porn for example for a deep love making that connects not only physically but spiritually.