Thread: Is this normal?

Oh its pretty much almost always an indicator of abuse. I know me and my friends played around in sexual ways at young ages and 2 of the 3 of us were abused. One kid will gain the knowledge of their body and sensations and teach it to other kids and it becomes a childhood game... but the one that became aware of things to do was likely shown those things by someone that shouldnt have shown them, etc.

Me and my cousin were abused for many years by the same person and we both acted out sexually as very young kids straight through our teens.

She has a daughter, and some years back... one of her daughters little friends was playing with her daughter and trying to get her to touch her in innapropriate ways. When my cousin found out she immediately contacted the other mother and let her know what was happening.

The mother broke down and cried because she said she had been suspecting that her daughter was possibly abused when spending time with some reletives the previous summer. There was an older teenage boy there that took an unusual interest in her daughter and it disturbed her, even though she didn't see anything innappropriate going on. She just had a gut feeling and didn't ever send her daughter back there, of course... but thought maybe she was paranoid and so didn't persue it.

Hearing of her daughters actions lead her to ask her daughter more about her time over there and was able to confirm her suspisions. I don't remember what action she took against the boy or the family but she was able to get her daughter some help.

Anytimes kids are acting out in that way its good to take note and find out WHY. Some maybe weren't abused themselves but perhaps the kids that taught them to play that way WERE... etc.

Most kids have zero interest in playing sex games unless someone has taught them about them so being proactive in finding out why can save them years of problems by nipping it in the bud.

One time my parents caught me and a friend playing around in a bad way and yelled at us. They never asked us why we were doing that, who taught us that..etc. Maybe if they would have taken a different approach I could have opened up to them about what was going on with me on a constant basis at the hands of a relative, but instead they closed that door tightly and I went on , in shame , dealing with the abuse.. for years.