Thread: Ideas for a Meaningful Wedding Ceremony

It was Glitter and Studs who likes Loon Mountain. I live with lots of mountains but not that one, LOL.

I have no intension to ever marry again. I've detailed some of my reasons before, I've been married a few times and it wasn't a good experience ever. Economics is a part of it. I started over at 50 with less than a 0 balance, after having carried no debt for most of my adult life and see little real possibility that I will ever retire. I have no interest in finding a man to "save" me and live with someone holding it over my head that they are the source of all things financial in my life. That might be livable when you have many years together and raised a family together but not coming together later in life. At least not for me. My last husband, although unemployed for over half the 8 years we were together, made a regular practice of telling me that he had pulled me out of the gutter. Total BS, I had a decent job, benefits, money in the bank, a small retirement account, lived in a great part of the city and my kids were at the top school in the city, before I married him. I will not allow a man an opportunity to do that to me again. I've never been with a man who actually wanted to build something together, they seem to have wanted me to build something while they call the shots and play.

Approaching 54 the chances of finding employment with benefits is slim. I lost a good chunk of what little money and credit I had last year in a business that in retrospect is essentially designed to pass the costs of dealing foreclosed homes off the banks and on to independent contractors. With this plantar facitius I have been partially disabled since the beginning of the year. This has effectively kept me out of most of what there is of a job market (we have tons of unemployed people moving here. Why? I don't know. There aren't any jobs). I'm not interested in a relationship of economic dependency.

I think I shot my bolt on being head over heels in love. That was a tough couple years on his roller coaster. I have a man in my life now with whom I have a relaxed, affectionate relationship. It is mostly sex and its only been a few months, we'll see where it goes. My guess is not too far, he wants to build a place out in the remote sticks and plant himself there. If that time comes I would happily pitch in and help him build but I'm not interested in living in isolation.

I will keep trying to find a way to turn things around but marriage is not something I see in the picture. For me, its been nothing but misery.

All that said, I still think its best to keep things simple and not start a marriage with a massive debt load for that one party.