kingjoe60

hi this is my first post so please be kind lol i. I am in my early twenties and as i a male i have never really understood women. i have just started to become interested in human sociology. i have lived with them going out with them and spend plenty of time with them. So far on my studys i found that most modern men dont really understand women and there needs. This causes problems for men and women in there relationship at home and at work. What issues is it that women feel men do not understand them in please let me know thanks.

Little

I find the problem with understanding other human beings is breaking it down by gender lines. When you assume someone is going to act, think, or feel a certain way because of their gender, you are misunderstanding human nature. Seek to understand individual humans and you will find yourself much more successful.

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WildChild

I will second Little's comment. We are all different, as are men. While as women, we may share common experiences, our responses to them will vary. You speak as if you are referring to an alien species. What would you say of someone who stated,"I want to understand the Irish. I have lived with them, going out with them and spend plenty of time with them. So far on my studies I have found that most modern people don't really understand the Irish and their needs."?

My guess would be, that you might say something like, " Wait a minute, you can't lump us all together. We are individuals with different ideas and dreams and strengths and weaknesses".

That is true of all people. If you are seeking a successful relationship, you will want a woman who relates to you as the male person you are, not as A man, possibly interchangeable with any other man.

That said, it is good that you want to better understand your fellow wayfarers on the planet. Sociology is the study of the behavior of large groups, if you are interested in succeeding in a relationship you would be better off concerning yourself with the responses and needs of the particular woman you are attracted to.

There are men, some of whom share their opinions here, who believe they have got it all figured out and have a system for manipulating or dealing with women to get what they want. However, that will work only with a certain of woman, in a certain type of relationship. You do have to weigh that when getting opinions.

One of the biggest causes of misunderstandings that lead to people feeling unheard and uncared about is geeralizations. You cannot assume that they want what you want nor can assume that they do not. Listen, actually listen, without analysing or figuring out how to "fix", this will serve you well.

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Tex

Women are human beings just like men. They aren't a different species and they aren't from another planet. Some people just use those cliched metaphors as excuses for not making enough of an effort.

Men and women have their physical and also psychological differences, but the differences from one person to another of the same gender are also significant enough to where you can't lump everyone into two groups and then assign neat little rules.

All people are different. How well you understand someone depends somewhat on how similar they are to you and how well you can relate. It also depends on how well two people communicate with each other, and a lack of communication is probably why many buy into the idea that men are from Mars and women are from Venus.

I'm a man and naturally there are other guys to whom I can relate easily and women that I don't understand, but there are also women that I 'get' no problem and men that I find puzzling. The trick is to ask questions and have honest conversations. Especially when it comes to romantic relationships. People don't come with instruction manuals or help files, and you have to make the effort to figure them out.