Thread: understanding women

I will second Little's comment. We are all different, as are men. While as women, we may share common experiences, our responses to them will vary. You speak as if you are referring to an alien species. What would you say of someone who stated,"I want to understand the Irish. I have lived with them, going out with them and spend plenty of time with them. So far on my studies I have found that most modern people don't really understand the Irish and their needs."?

My guess would be, that you might say something like, " Wait a minute, you can't lump us all together. We are individuals with different ideas and dreams and strengths and weaknesses".

That is true of all people. If you are seeking a successful relationship, you will want a woman who relates to you as the male person you are, not as A man, possibly interchangeable with any other man.

That said, it is good that you want to better understand your fellow wayfarers on the planet. Sociology is the study of the behavior of large groups, if you are interested in succeeding in a relationship you would be better off concerning yourself with the responses and needs of the particular woman you are attracted to.

There are men, some of whom share their opinions here, who believe they have got it all figured out and have a system for manipulating or dealing with women to get what they want. However, that will work only with a certain of woman, in a certain type of relationship. You do have to weigh that when getting opinions.

One of the biggest causes of misunderstandings that lead to people feeling unheard and uncared about is geeralizations. You cannot assume that they want what you want nor can assume that they do not. Listen, actually listen, without analysing or figuring out how to "fix", this will serve you well.