I need someone

**Hopeless Dork** · 10-05-2009, 12:47 AM

I need someone to talk to.... but I have no one. I have my boyfriend, and I've talked to him, in fact... I trust him more than anyone, but I just can't burden him with my dilemma any more than I already have.

I need someone to talk to... but I'll never say what it is I want to talk about it. I don't trust anyone enough. But I need to talk to someone. Why? I don't know. No one could tell me anything that would help me figure things out...

But I still need to talk. I won't say what this is about, I'm sure those of you that read me will wonder wtf I am going on about -- but I'm never gonna say.

I wish I could. But I can't. I wish I didn't have so much to say. But I do.

**ThexMrs** · 10-05-2009, 12:58 AM

I hate to sound rude because that's not my intent but... If you're not going to talk about it or tell us what it is, what's the point of the thread? Do you want to talk about random stuff to get your mind off of it?

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 10-05-2009, 12:59 AM

Hey HD..

One thing ... You've been a pillar of strength for so many here, guiding them, enlightening them and telling it how it is, together with your stories and likeness to theirs.

I'd like to think that your problems are the same as mine, and other's, hense why we are all here I think..

I guess with boyfriends, we don't want to burden too much or appear anxcious, weak what ever, yet to talk to "someone" especially someone you don't know allows you just get things off your chest as you want to and need to. It definately helps.

You know where I am if ever you need to just "talk"..

But, you also probably don't realise how much we actually care and will be there, just to make comments like this..

A journal would be good for you as well, private one until you wish to share any of it.

Anyways, having know you for a while I for one am very proud of you ...which has nothing to do with what you wrote, I know.. But, that's me.. I say what I feel at the time.

CW

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 10-05-2009, 02:05 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ThexMrs

I hate to sound rude because that's not my intent but... If you're not going to talk about it or tell us what it is, what's the point of the thread? Do you want to talk about random stuff to get your mind off of it?

The point of the thread sweet was to say exactly what she said... She has a problem to discuss something and probably won't and wishes that she could...

Your not being rude. Think of times when you wanted to talk but didn't...

HD is just stating that she wishes that she could....

Perhaps the only way, is to find trust .....

CW

**Miya** · 10-05-2009, 05:55 AM

I've been in the same situation HD and as CW mentioned a private journal can be quite therapeutic. It's a difficult phase to be in but like in internal exploration, talking to yourself (either out loud or internally) can also be quite helpful. I firmly believe we have ALL the answers to our own questions inside us and that it can be possible to contact that "god" being that gives us the ability to think and self-reflect.

Be well dear..

**happy ending** · 10-05-2009, 06:33 AM

or you can just blab it all out like i did the other day, a journal might be less embarassing though. i know what you mean i dont have a lot of close friends and the close friends i do have are having BIG issues of their own at the moment, you can always p.m - chandlers wish, she gives great advice and is heaps cheaper than therapy!!!

**Kallygirlie** · 10-05-2009, 07:16 AM

I cant relate to you HD. Journals really do help. I need to be writing in one myself. I know my BF would listen till his ears fell off but I dont want to burdan him just like you. No other friends and dont want to open up to family about it. I know the way the mind can spin out of control when you keep it all locked in there. Honestly, find a journal and just go to town on paper. It's hard to say the best way to release the way you feel if we dont know what kind of emotions you are feeling. Always remember, we are all here, and we care deeply. Tho us being strangers makes it hard to share deep dark emotions, sometimes it can be the best thing to just get it off your chest. We are all here if you need us

**caterpillar79** · 10-05-2009, 10:01 AM

Yes, it is. Start your journal. Make a commitment to two morning pages. It works. PM your trusted buddies here if you feel like it. Don't bottle up - it is never good for your heart and soul.

**WildChild** · 10-05-2009, 11:07 AM

The vast majority of women are verbal processors, we need to talk things through. You can do it in writing, you can do it speaking. Often times just saying it, helps you understand and get more clarity. Trust can be a biggie, sometimes it's easier to talk to relative strangers than people you know because they won't pull in a lot of old garbage and they have no stake in the situation.

I can understand your reluctance, once you put something out there others can use it to bite you but sometimes we just need to get some input and feedback. You know we are here if you need.

**rcoreyus** · 10-05-2009, 04:38 PM

Other people have offered, but I will as well -you can PM me or email at richardcory84yahoo.com I've said enough here that I can never allow to be associated with my real identity that you can trust me to keep a secret.

10-05-2009, 12:47 AM	#1
Hopeless Dork Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: United States Posts: 1,238	I need someone I need someone to talk to.... but I have no one. I have my boyfriend, and I've talked to him, in fact... I trust him more than anyone, but I just can't burden him with my dilemma any more than I already have. I need someone to talk to... but I'll never say what it is I want to talk about it. I don't trust anyone enough. But I need to talk to someone. Why? I don't know. No one could tell me anything that would help me figure things out... But I still need to talk. I won't say what this is about, I'm sure those of you that read me will wonder wtf I am going on about -- but I'm never gonna say. I wish I could. But I can't. I wish I didn't have so much to say. But I do. __________________ ------------- Defintion of Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." - Albert Einstein

10-05-2009, 12:58 AM	#2
ThexMrs Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Oregon. Posts: 2,732 Blog Entries: 13	I hate to sound rude because that's not my intent but... If you're not going to talk about it or tell us what it is, what's the point of the thread? Do you want to talk about random stuff to get your mind off of it? __________________ "I carry your heart with me, I carry it in my heart, I am never without it, anywhere I go, you go, my dear, And whatever is done by only me is your doing, my darling."

10-05-2009, 12:59 AM	#3
CHANDLERS WISH WH Moderator Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Australia Posts: 9,933 Blog Entries: 7	Hey HD.. One thing ... You've been a pillar of strength for so many here, guiding them, enlightening them and telling it how it is, together with your stories and likeness to theirs. I'd like to think that your problems are the same as mine, and other's, hense why we are all here I think.. I guess with boyfriends, we don't want to burden too much or appear anxcious, weak what ever, yet to talk to "someone" especially someone you don't know allows you just get things off your chest as you want to and need to. It definately helps. You know where I am if ever you need to just "talk".. But, you also probably don't realise how much we actually care and will be there, just to make comments like this.. A journal would be good for you as well, private one until you wish to share any of it. Anyways, having know you for a while I for one am very proud of you ...which has nothing to do with what you wrote, I know.. But, that's me.. I say what I feel at the time. CW __________________ Do we not realise that in order to find a soul It doesn't happen over night if truth were to be told Like everything in life that's hard to achieve you must believe! Register! \| Rules/FAQ \| Contact Mod

10-05-2009, 05:55 AM	#5
Miya Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Born in Japan, now in Northern Virginia Posts: 589 Blog Entries: 3	I've been in the same situation HD and as CW mentioned a private journal can be quite therapeutic. It's a difficult phase to be in but like in internal exploration, talking to yourself (either out loud or internally) can also be quite helpful. I firmly believe we have ALL the answers to our own questions inside us and that it can be possible to contact that "god" being that gives us the ability to think and self-reflect. Be well dear.. __________________ Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. -Lord Buddha

10-05-2009, 07:16 AM	#7
Kallygirlie Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Simon Champion! Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: PA, USA Posts: 367	I cant relate to you HD. Journals really do help. I need to be writing in one myself. I know my BF would listen till his ears fell off but I dont want to burdan him just like you. No other friends and dont want to open up to family about it. I know the way the mind can spin out of control when you keep it all locked in there. Honestly, find a journal and just go to town on paper. It's hard to say the best way to release the way you feel if we dont know what kind of emotions you are feeling. Always remember, we are all here, and we care deeply. Tho us being strangers makes it hard to share deep dark emotions, sometimes it can be the best thing to just get it off your chest. We are all here if you need us __________________ Krystal

10-05-2009, 06:33 AM	#6
happy ending Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: western australia Posts: 655	or you can just blab it all out like i did the other day, a journal might be less embarassing though. i know what you mean i dont have a lot of close friends and the close friends i do have are having BIG issues of their own at the moment, you can always p.m - chandlers wish, she gives great advice and is heaps cheaper than therapy!!!

10-05-2009, 10:01 AM	#8
caterpillar79 Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: MidWest, USA Posts: 1,379 Blog Entries: 52	Yes, it is. Start your journal. Make a commitment to two morning pages. It works. PM your trusted buddies here if you feel like it. Don't bottle up - it is never good for your heart and soul. __________________ Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, but learning how to dance in the rain.

10-05-2009, 11:07 AM	#9
WildChild Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Western USA Posts: 6,232 Blog Entries: 5	The vast majority of women are verbal processors, we need to talk things through. You can do it in writing, you can do it speaking. Often times just saying it, helps you understand and get more clarity. Trust can be a biggie, sometimes it's easier to talk to relative strangers than people you know because they won't pull in a lot of old garbage and they have no stake in the situation. I can understand your reluctance, once you put something out there others can use it to bite you but sometimes we just need to get some input and feedback. You know we are here if you need. __________________ We can only learn to love by loving. Iris Mudoch, British writer

10-05-2009, 04:38 PM	#10
rcoreyus March 2008 "Poster of the Month" Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: SF bay area Posts: 1,334	Other people have offered, but I will as well -you can PM me or email at richardcory84yahoo.com I've said enough here that I can never allow to be associated with my real identity that you can trust me to keep a secret.

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