Thread: boyfriend doesn't turn me on

Originally Posted by ItsASecret

Low testosterone is for sure a possibility but even with added supplements there is no guarantee that a woman's sex drive will increase even for a short period of time.

In the case of a low testosterone diagnosis, sure, there is no 100% guarantee, but the likelihood of restoring sex drive is pretty damm good.

Originally Posted by ItsASecret

If it were that simple there would be a multi-billion dollar drug business like Viagra but there is nothing like that as of right now. I personally would pay for something that gave guaranteed results simply because I too would like a higher drive

The reason more Docs don't prescribe testosterone supplements is because they are classified as steroids. And we all know the media, and even Dr's with little to no experience, do a pretty good job of making steroids out to be the devil. The fact is, when used appropriately, and in controlled environments, steroids are very safe and very effective. A big problem lies where inexperienced Dr's will prescribe too much without an anti-estrogen (since testosterone breaks down into estrogen), or when folks take it upon themselves to self medicate and take too much.

More and more research is showing the benefits testosterone can have on the sex drive of either gender in addition to their overall well being.

Tex, I know you were kidding. I'm just so uptight lately and can't help it.

I guess the low testosterone could be a possibility. But as for the depression, I know it has to do with the separation and breakup. Because even when it wasn't going well in the bedroom, I was far from depressed. I was happy with him and before the bedroom, back in August, I felt like I was living on cloud9, I was so happy with him. And before meeting him, I was ok, not depressed. No, the depression I'm feeling is the heartache of loosing him.

Before I do any blood test, I want to see what the sex therapist says on Thursday. I really need a way to test myself. I hope she can give me some way of doing that.

Originally Posted by Amber

But as for the depression, I know it has to do with the separation and breakup. Because even when it wasn't going well in the bedroom, I was far from depressed. I was happy with him and before the bedroom, back in August, I felt like I was living on cloud9, I was so happy with him. And before meeting him, I was ok, not depressed. No, the depression I'm feeling is the heartache of loosing him.

Before I do any blood test, I want to see what the sex therapist says on Thursday. I really need a way to test myself. I hope she can give me some way of doing that.

FWIW - I don't think you're depressed. It's normal to feel down after a life altering change has occurred. Depression is classified as prolonged feelings of worthlessness for no apparent reason. Once the stigma of your break up wears off, you'll be just fine again. Trust me.

Also- a sex therapist mainly focuses on what's in your head. It's unlikely he or she is versed in medicine....most cannot prescribe anyway. Your hormones, to a great extent, control what you feel and what is in your head. That said, I wouldn't go sniffing around about testosterone supplements with your sex therapist.

I think it's best to hit the GP first and get a blood test. That is the start of it all.

Just my humble .02.

OhThereYouAre, I say I would like to see the sex therapist first, not because of the testosterone idea but because I still don't know if all of this is not psychological. The first time I went into the bedroom with my ex, I was nervous if I was going to do it right or could I really please him. Then the few times afterwards, I was already tensed before it even happened, already nervous about the whole thing. All of that was a strike against me.

I could say that my ex didn't excite me and that is why. Maybe but I really don't know if that is the case. It could very easily been just my nervousness getting in the way. But then I never felt a spark with him when we kiss. That lousy nasty spark thing again!! I would like to blame nerves on that but I really don't know if I can. It is over anyways so I just have to tell myself to drop it.

I have never really tried to masterbate before so I wonder if that is still a possibility. Something I still want to try. And I'm guessing if I do succeed with that, then my testosterone level is ok. Why I don't get any feelings when I look at guys, who on earth knows. That maybe be low testosterone or maybe it is not. I have no clue. I have no clue what I am even suppose to be feeling but I'm guessing it is strong enough that I would know if I was feeling it? I'm just so clueless.

There is no guy in my life. My ex is gone so I figure it won't hurt waiting on a blood test like that. I know there are definitely psychological problems in the sex department with me that need to be fixed no matter how much testosterone I may have or not have. That blood test is definitely not something I'm going to rule out but just not something I want to do right away. Why, I'm not sure. I'm definitely not afraid of the needle to draw the blood, I have had that done to me enough times.

Adding to the other post, I would like to blame the lack of spark with my ex due to my nervousness or my run away mind but I don't know if I really can. I probably can beat that issue to death with a stick and still not get an answer. I keep telling myself I have to just drop it. It doesn't matter anymore. Move on. He is gone. But for some reason I'm having a hard time listening to myself. I guess it will happen with time.

Maybe I don't want that test because then it will just tell me that nope, you can't masterbate and have an orgazism without drugs. I don't think I'm ready to have someone tell me that just yet before I have even tried it.