boyfriend doesn't turn me on - Page 3

**WildChild** · 10-11-2009, 09:52 PM

Often by the time you actually go your own ways it has been long over. Just depends on the people.
Speaking of sex therapists, you might check the book, The Orgasm Loop by sex therapist Susan Crain Bakos. It one I've recommened many times. You may well need more than just a book, but I think that the more you work on your thinking and truly deeply accepting that sexual pleasure is normal and your right as a woman, the easier it will be for you get there.

**Amber** · 10-12-2009, 08:57 AM

Thanks for the book idea WC. I can always buy it on Amazon but I was curious, can you just buy that in a Barnes and Nobles or Borders? If so what section do you think I would look in?

**WildChild** · 10-12-2009, 09:44 AM

They have a section on sex, it would be there, if they have it. You can ask at the desk. I'm always asking for stuff they don't have - it keeps them entertained.

**LanaBear** · 10-12-2009, 01:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Amber

Thanks for the book idea WC. I can always buy it on Amazon but I was curious, can you just buy that in a Barnes and Nobles or Borders? If so what section do you think I would look in?

You can also check the inventory of your local BN online. Saves you a trip if they don't have it, unless you are like me, I could spend hours in there.

**Amber** · 10-12-2009, 04:08 PM

Lanabear, that is a good idea to check online before hand but I didn't think of that. I ended up finding it in Borders. They only had one copy but that is all that I need. Boy, that section wasn't even in order by author's last name. It took me forever to find it. I couldn't believe some of the titles of the other books!!

I'm curious on something. Most of you say you feel something wonderful when you kiss a guy. Would you please tell me where you feel it? Do you feel something down below and that makes you want to kiss all the more. Or do actually feel tingling somewhere when he kisses you or what?

**WildChild** · 10-12-2009, 04:10 PM

Depends on the man, the circumstances, mood but it can be a full body experience. Just thinking about it can get me wet and give that little butterflies in the belly feeling.

**caterpillar79** · 10-12-2009, 04:17 PM

I agree with WC. Also, it has something to do on MY mind set and emotional state, and how I feel about the man I am kissing. If I love him, I would want to kiss more - it feels like I am floating in the air, very light and my world stops. (Well, I couldn't get to kiss someone I don't have feelings for, anyway). It's hard to explain. I hope you'll get to experience it, too.

**LanaBear** · 10-12-2009, 04:28 PM

Glad you got the book, I haven't read it, but I'm tempted because WC recommends it so often.

Kissing - Hmm - depends on the mood, definitely. Sometimes I feel it down below, sometimes (most times) I feel it in my stomach, I just enjoy the feeling over all

**WildChild** · 10-12-2009, 04:31 PM

I did recently get a book on kissing, Haven't had time to read it yet. The Kissing School

**caterpillar79** · 10-12-2009, 04:33 PM

Hmmmm....OK dear...see you in class!

10-11-2009, 09:52 PM	#21
WildChild Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Western USA Posts: 6,233 Blog Entries: 5	Often by the time you actually go your own ways it has been long over. Just depends on the people. Speaking of sex therapists, you might check the book, The Orgasm Loop by sex therapist Susan Crain Bakos. It one I've recommened many times. You may well need more than just a book, but I think that the more you work on your thinking and truly deeply accepting that sexual pleasure is normal and your right as a woman, the easier it will be for you get there. __________________ We can only learn to love by loving. Iris Mudoch, British writer

10-12-2009, 09:44 AM	#23
WildChild Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Western USA Posts: 6,233 Blog Entries: 5	They have a section on sex, it would be there, if they have it. You can ask at the desk. I'm always asking for stuff they don't have - it keeps them entertained. __________________ We can only learn to love by loving. Iris Mudoch, British writer

10-12-2009, 04:10 PM	#26
WildChild Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Western USA Posts: 6,233 Blog Entries: 5	Depends on the man, the circumstances, mood but it can be a full body experience. Just thinking about it can get me wet and give that little butterflies in the belly feeling. __________________ We can only learn to love by loving. Iris Mudoch, British writer

10-12-2009, 04:17 PM	#27
caterpillar79 Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: MidWest, USA Posts: 1,401 Blog Entries: 52	I agree with WC. Also, it has something to do on MY mind set and emotional state, and how I feel about the man I am kissing. If I love him, I would want to kiss more - it feels like I am floating in the air, very light and my world stops. (Well, I couldn't get to kiss someone I don't have feelings for, anyway). It's hard to explain. I hope you'll get to experience it, too. __________________ Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, but learning how to dance in the rain.

10-12-2009, 04:28 PM	#28
LanaBear Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Moon Lander Champion! Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: A cozy little cottage on the moon. :-) Posts: 1,694 Blog Entries: 5	Glad you got the book, I haven't read it, but I'm tempted because WC recommends it so often. Kissing - Hmm - depends on the mood, definitely. Sometimes I feel it down below, sometimes (most times) I feel it in my stomach, I just enjoy the feeling over all __________________ Sometimes life isn't the party we hoped for, but since we're here, we might as well DANCE!

10-12-2009, 08:57 AM	#22
Amber Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 150 Blog Entries: 1	Thanks for the book idea WC. I can always buy it on Amazon but I was curious, can you just buy that in a Barnes and Nobles or Borders? If so what section do you think I would look in?

10-12-2009, 04:08 PM	#25
Amber Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 150 Blog Entries: 1	Lanabear, that is a good idea to check online before hand but I didn't think of that. I ended up finding it in Borders. They only had one copy but that is all that I need. Boy, that section wasn't even in order by author's last name. It took me forever to find it. I couldn't believe some of the titles of the other books!! I'm curious on something. Most of you say you feel something wonderful when you kiss a guy. Would you please tell me where you feel it? Do you feel something down below and that makes you want to kiss all the more. Or do actually feel tingling somewhere when he kisses you or what?

10-12-2009, 04:31 PM	#29
WildChild Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Western USA Posts: 6,233 Blog Entries: 5	I did recently get a book on kissing, Haven't had time to read it yet. The Kissing School __________________ We can only learn to love by loving. Iris Mudoch, British writer

10-12-2009, 04:33 PM	#30
caterpillar79 Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: MidWest, USA Posts: 1,401 Blog Entries: 52	Hmmmm....OK dear...see you in class! __________________ Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, but learning how to dance in the rain.

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