Thread: boyfriend doesn't turn me on

Tex, thankfully he found nothing new growing. He said it just may be a little inflammed. Told me to use some ice and advil. He wants me to try a different style of sneakers. If it starts to get worse, to let him know.

Now part two, next week, the knee. This one won't be as simple. It is ok, I guess, when walking as long it is not for too long but standing, it keeps constantly clicking and eventually the hurting becomes too much. He might just say more exercise. Who knows. I'm fine with that, just as long as that ends up working. Last time I saw him was when he took the stitches out of my knee in October, after having the screws removed from the surgery I had two years ago.

Originally Posted by Amber

Tex, thankfully he found nothing new growing.

Great news!

Yah, now what about my knee. I tried to free style dance last night for the first time in almost a year. I'm now paying for it. What is wrong with this dam knee? I really wish he can give me a decent answer next week when I see him but most likely he won't know.

At least that time of the month is over, so I'm not as depressed but I'm still not in a good mood.

I tried again last night, first time since my mother caught me. My mother never talked about that night so I know she knows but her silence means she is not going to stop me.

So anyways, instead of looking at my posters and trying to come up with a fantasy, I found myself instead just closing my eyes and trying the fantasy. I also tried to hold the vibrator in my right hand only and touch myself a little with the left. That causes some problem because when I start to get feeling, I can't handle the vibrator with just one hand. But anyways, for the first time, I mind just thought of the vibrator in my right hand as being his privates and all of sudden I got even more feeling! But then something disturbed it all. The fact that my legs tried to straigten so much that it hurt my knees. Unfortunately this was enough to distract me and send the feelings away. I don't know if that is the only problem but I can easily say that I won't be getting any farther until I can find a comfortable position for myself. At one point it was making me arch my upper body off the bed but once again I was uncomfortable like that, so it brought me out of it. Anyone know of any postions I can try. Unfortunately if I try anything that would put too much strain on the knees or feet, it is going to make me uncomfortable.

Something else I was wondering about. I know they say don't use the vibrator too much or it will kill you sensations all together. Or something like that. I don't try every day but when I do try, I find myself at it probably for at least an hour or so. Having the vibrator on medium speed for that long, will that hurt me? Once I finally gave up trying last night and put the vibrator away, there was times that I still would feel what i'm guessing was the clitorus twitch a little. And that was definitely not a turn on happening. It was a reaction from using the vibrator on it for that long.

yes, if you masturbate or use a vibrator too much it can desensitize the area and make it harder to reach the O in the future. masturbation, like most things in life, are best done in moderation.

Originally Posted by sperosi

yes, if you masturbate or use a vibrator too much it can desensitize the area and make it harder to reach the O in the future. masturbation, like most things in life, are best done in moderation.

Sperosi, sorry I didn't this before. But how much is too much? That is what I'm wondering.

Right now it is the only way I feel anything is with a vibrator.

Not been in a good mood lately. Combination of things. I hate Valentine's Day for one thing. I hated it before and I really, really hate it this year. Yah, it is all fine and dandy for the people who have that special other but when you never do, it really sucks. And this year it is so much worse for me.

On another note, I just have been so stressed out from work, so that definitely doesn't put me in a good mood. They hired me back but they also should have hired five more people back in the process. No instead everyone who is here doing work double of the amount that they should be doing. I was stressed out at times when I use to work there but this time it is so much worse. They are expecting way too much out of us. Not to mention that the pay is 10 percent lesser. Figures!!

Sex stuff that I have recently started to get aggravated about lately. Maybe if I wasn't in such a lousy mood lately it wouldn't get on my nerves as much but then who knows with me. Anyways....

I must have mentioned somewhere in this thread before that I have never been arroused before by just looking at a really cute guy. That in itself disturbs me a little. I also have never felt anything really when I have watched a movie or read a book. Porn, I really don't like. Tried it already, as you will see in this thread, and it does nothing for me.

But I say never felt anything really but I have felt something. But it is very slight. It just feels like a twinge in my private parts. Lately I have been associated that with some sort of sign. But then something occurred to me yesterday. This feeling is so slight, maybe it really is nothing. Maybe it is not a sexual reaction at all.

On the same note but a little different. A few of you here have told me that I need to figure out what feels good for when the next guy comes along, I can let him know. This just friggin aggravates me so much. Almost anything would probably aggravate me lately since I'm so stressed out but this is the issue at the moment. I have no stinking clue what could be good. I don't know what can be done. All I know is that my clitoris can bring on aggitation/ exciting sensations. And that is only when a guy is touching me or if I use a vibrator. I can't get that feeling when I'm touching myself. I never do.

So other than the clitoris, I have no clue what so ever. Within that, I wonder. I have been jumping to a conclusion that I can be touched on certain part of my body and it will make my private parts feel something. I just made this conclusion because I said I felt that twinge down below first. But yesterday, I started to question that. Is that how it really works? Other parts of my body can make me feel sensations down below? Or a reaction to a guy, which never happens but I wonder if it is something that could happen? Or is not connected that way at all? I really have no stinking clue and the more I think about it, it aggravates me. I really have no clue how my body is suppose to respond. Or is it that I will only feel some sensations when I'm actually touched below, either played with or maybe went a guy enters me?

Going back to finding what feels good to you. What the heck does that mean???!!!! Ok, the clitoris is sensitive but if that is all the guy does is touch there, then that sucks. That is all my friends with benefit guy did and it was just so impersonal. So what else can be done? Touching other parts of my body? What parts and when that is done, do I just enjoy the feeling that I feel on those places or is it suppose to trigger my privates down below? Once again I wonder are they connected or not? Or does it trigger sensations I have never even know exist? I really have no clue. That is one part that really aggravates me. Is it all connected or am I just suppose to be enjoying just a touch on the neck as a touch on the neck and maybe it feels good? Or will it maybe some how trigger a different part of my body? I'm really totally friggin clueless when it comes to my body!!!! So much that it is really aggravating me right now!!!!!! You can see just touch it and see what happens. Don't think so. Because I am so frustrated, nothing is going to just happen like that for me. I need to know what to try or what to look for. Or to have an idea of what to expect in the back of my mind.

But then work is stressing me out so much lately that getting aggravated is not too hard to do.

I can't check out this thread in work so I won't get back here until tonight. Don't want anyone to think that I'm ignoring them.

Hi Amber-

You said you don't want people to think that you are ignoring them. But you're ignoring me.

Way back on page 9 or so I suggested visiting your GP to get a blood test done and a hormonal screen.

Have you done that?

You should.

Your hormones are the building blocks of your thoughts and feelings. If they are off, you'll never have these feelings that you are so desperately looking for.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results. Let's shake up this slump.

Everything you are saying in this rather lengthy thread suggests that you
have a testosterone deficiency.

You should address that, it's your most likely avenue for success.

Please do so.

And good luck.