You're totally right! I did learn some important stuff from my marriage! I will NEVER share a bank account with another man as long as I'm depositing most of the money I wont marry someone if they can't propose to me. I'm sure that sounds weird but if they dont love me enough to even try and ask! So money and marriage are my 2 major red lights........... then next is how they are with my kids. For that one he's a yellow light........ at times he's green and just a few times gone red............. but if he was bright red I'd be out the door in a heartbeat.... I promise you that!