Ladies, what is your idea of a happy life?

**sourpuss** · 11-18-2009 08:43 PM

Originally Posted by SecretlySad

I have come across so many women lately who are either (a) single and very happy and (b) childless and very happy.

It really shocks me sometimes. I was always under the impression that every woman's vision for the perfect life was a prince charming husband, 3 kids and a house with a white picket fence in a good, clean neighbourhood.

I love that so many women are coming out and giving a big F YOU to society's expectations.

Even though I myself may want these things one day, it makes me personally feel very liberated.

How about you?

I a both single and childless and HAPPY! Woot! I know a lot of woman want to be married w/kids but that life just isn't for me. Never has been. As a little girl I never fantasized about getting married and kids and all that.

The guy I'm dating just told me tonight that he's never dated a gal who is so independent and he's having trouble getting used to the fact that I still have male friends and I travel alone and don't need a man in my life. I can see how that would make him insecure but I hope he can live with it because i don't see it changing any time soon.

I hate expectations on me. The fact that I am single, no kids, don't own a house...etc, a lot of people would see that as failure in life. To me, it's freedom. I feel grateful and fulfilled by the wonderful people in my life and nothing is missing (other than being independently wealthy, of course) So the fact that I have nothing tying me down gives me the freedom to pursue my interests and travel at a moments notice. Maybe that will change one day, but I'm already 33 so I don't see how it could change too much.

**sourpuss** · 11-18-2009 08:46 PM

Originally Posted by SecretlySad

That's how I feel too. I will never forget the look on my mum's face when I told her I may never want kids. Disappointment doesn't even begin to describe it!

But I am not going to do something as big as that to please someone else, much as I love my mummy.

My dad once said to me (and I'm not joking)

"Well, I guess if I'm not going to get grandkids then I don't see the point of living any longer. I mean, I've lived life, raised my own kids, what else is there really?"

Talk about pressure!

**SecretlySad** · 11-18-2009 08:47 PM

Originally Posted by Mes_T

Although my mom did recently tell me that it'd be best if I didn't get married. Ever.

I think she was having a particularly bad day with my dad at the time, but still, made me hope that she's not as traditional as I thought.

LOL go mama Mes.

Originally Posted by sourpuss

I a both single and childless and HAPPY! Woot! I know a lot of woman want to be married w/kids but that life just isn't for me. Never has been. As a little girl I never fantasized about getting married and kids and all that.

I hate expectations on me. The fact that I am single, no kids, don't own a house...etc, a lot of people would see that as failure in life. To me, it's freedom. I feel grateful and fulfilled by the wonderful people in my life and nothing is missing (other than being independently wealthy, of course) So the fact that I have nothing tying me down gives me the freedom to pursue my interests and travel at a moments notice. Maybe that will change one day, but I'm already 33 so I don't see how it could change too much.

I was never one of those little girls either, sourpuss. Friends say to me all the time "remember when you used to dress up in a white dress and use a pillowcase as a veil?" "uh... no" hehe.

See I hate that attitude, people seeing you not having all those things as a failure. It's just horrible. I believe people should be able to do what makes THEM happy in life.

**WildChild** · 11-18-2009 08:48 PM

He needs a hobby.

**SecretlySad** · 11-18-2009 08:48 PM

Originally Posted by sourpuss

My dad once said to me (and I'm not joking)

"Well, I guess if I'm not going to get grandkids then I don't see the point of living any longer. I mean, I've lived life, raised my own kids, what else is there really?"

Talk about pressure!

Holy moly, dad!!!

**caterpillar79** · 11-18-2009 08:55 PM

Speaking of having kids and the outside pressure from parents, reminds of our biological clocks ticking - that is, IF we want to conceive.

I have experienced both sides of the world - the freedom or being single and its opposite. I am/was happy with both (excluding the cloud that veiled part of the married life which ran its course).

Right now, with the new chapter being written in my book, all I can think of is my dedicated and loving fiance. He gives me the freedom to grow and explore the part of me that got buried in the previous relationship, at the same time, he guides me in this journey, as I do the same to him. For me, this is happiness, and indeed priceless.

**SecretlySad** · 11-18-2009 09:09 PM

Originally Posted by caterpillar79

Right now, with the new chapter being written in my book, all I can think of is my dedicated and loving fiance. He gives me the freedom to grow and explore the part of me that got buried in the previous relationship, at the same time, he guides me in this journey, as I do the same to him. For me, this is happiness, and indeed priceless.

That's wonderful, cat.

**sourpuss** · 11-18-2009 09:16 PM

Originally Posted by SecretlySad

Holy moly, dad!!!

Haha, I know! I asked him if I should buy him a rope. hehe

**SecretlySad** · 11-18-2009 09:21 PM

Originally Posted by sourpuss

Haha, I know! I asked him if I should buy him a rope. hehe

Bwahahaha Touché

I don't even know what it is I want out of life yet... all I know is that I hate being judged. Some girlfriends look at me like I have an alien growing out of my eyeball when I tell them marriage isn't a big deal to me.

**sourpuss** · 11-18-2009 09:28 PM

Originally Posted by SecretlySad

Bwahahaha Touché

I don't even know what it is I want out of life yet... all I know is that I hate being judged. Some girlfriends look at me like I have an alien growing out of my eyeball when I tell them marriage isn't a big deal to me.

Well in the next ten years when they are getting divorced and crying to you all the time you can give them a big fat 'told you so!'.

Kidding, kidding. That wasn't very nice. haha

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