Thread: Ladies, what is your idea of a happy life?

At one time I always thoughts that I definitely want kids. Now at 36yrs old, single, and with no kids, I'm not so sure. I kind of still want them but I guess at my age, i'm afraid that it may not happen. Because it obviously takes two and if I did adopt or consider a sperm bank, I wouldn't be able to support a child on my own. So I can't be certain anymore if I will have a child one day.

A happy life for me would to be to find a man who would be my equal. Someone I love and would love me even more in return. We would get married and if children came into the picture, then all the better. But as long as I had him, children may not necessarily be a must for me anymore.

To be truly happy and realistic, you also need to be stable financially because if you are not, then it will just cause problems. I need to find the job I have been looking for and I would hope the man has one also. But unfortunately with this economy, no one is guaranteed to have a job anymore.

But true love is what I want fore most.

You sound very similar to one of my workmates, Amber.

Married at 22, she had her whole life ahead of her, and she and her husband started trying for a family almost immediately after they were married.

5 years later, he left her for another woman and they divorced. She is also now single, 36 and looking for love. Unfortunately for her though, her standards are ridiculously high (he can't be a smoker, can't have children, can't be overweight, can't do this, that and the other) so I don't like her chances. I am sure your Mr Right will come along when you least expect it!!

SecretlySad, I think I would agree with her with one point. I would be against a smoker also. My uncle died from lung cancer at 40years old and left my aunt with 8 children to raise on her own. I never smoked and don't want someone else who does. But believe it or not, now a days, it is not that hard to find a guy who doesn't smoke as it may have been at one time.

Finding a guy without children is harder but may not be impossible. But all of that and in good shape at around 40. Good luck to her on that one!

I agree with MDC, absolutely.

This is probably not what you want to hear, but i want all the things most women do. A traditional husband, home, 2.4 children, big white wedding... All of it. But i do definitely agree that everyone is different and there are surely more unconventional women than you'd think.