Thread: The Fugly one

without reading the other responses my first reaction is you need new friends... True friends would not treat you this way.

HD and Kmonte not only took exactly what i was going to say and wrote it but they made me sound a lot smarter too!
Guess there is nothing more for me to say except good luck!

Love

Tom Boys Rock!!!!!!!!

All the good bits of a girl and boy in one package.

The posts above are good and true

Smile this is the MOST important thing to attract a man, initially. To smile a true smile you have to be happy and confident in yourself. Some girls do this with clothes and make up, some in there attitude to life etc. You need to find what's going to work for you.

Take a quick inventory so far:

Are you friends 'true' and 'real'

Do you want to change?

What are your best physical features, lips, eyes, rack, butt, hair whatever
Eccetuate this feature slightly keep the tom boy thing 'cos that's you (assuming that makes you comfortable/happy) If you have nice eyes a little eyeliner, chest fitted tshirt etc.

Why do you want a boyfriend, cos everyone else has one?

Are you actually the super fit one and all the guys are too scared to talk to you?

If you're a tom boy you should be able to talk easily to boys presumably you have a few close ones seek their advice

My ideal tom boy look for what it's worth is the very feminie tom boy virtually no make up, no lippy, hair in a pony tail (slightly higher some hair loose). Jeans Tshirt both well fitted walking trainers or nice heels, simple necklace and a basic watch (not too girly but mot to masculine) and very femine underwear. Yes I know I haven't really descibed a tom boy

Anyway this look to me suggests I am a hot women who is prepared to get stuck in to having fun and isn't going to spend three hours in the bathroom getting ready is attractive but not vein or obsessed with shopping.

Sounds like you a victim of some peer pressure, be true to yourself

Friend accept friends for who they are

Hope this helps Fb

Guy's point of view here (of course different men will have different opinions):

Clothes don't matter at all - women may care, but in general men don't. A (very nice and attractive) male friend of mine once complained how annoying it was that man of the women he dated would dress in impractical clothes and shoes that made it difficult to go out for a walk or do other fun things.

Tomboys are great - there are a LOT of men who would love to meet a woman who isn't too girly, and who enjoys some of the things men traditionally enjoy.

As far as attracting men - attitude is everything. Smile (as FB said) - its really important. If you look happy, people like to be around you. Be confident - not hitting on guys, but just making conversation.

Almost no one will react badly if you start talking to them. Don't think of the goal as "picking them up", but rather just enjoying talking. If they don't want to talk, fine, drop it. If they want to talk - great. Eventually you will find someone you really like and who likes you.

(Yes you will run into the occasional obnoxious person who gets rude - but its rare, and who cares what someone like that thinks).

Especially talk to some of the more shy guys. There are a lot of really nice men who are just to shy to strike up a conversation with a woman.

Since you are tom-boy ish, go do fun things with guys - what sort of hobbies / sports do you enjoy?

Your "friends" sound terrible - and may be directly hampering you - if they act negatively towards you when you go out, other people will pick up on that.

(I would have loved to have met someone like you when I was younger).

Thanks everyone for the comments. I'm not use to hanging out with a lot of girls so its kinda new to me but I will try the advice that you guys are giving me. I want to change my style too but its hard to when you use to doing something for a long time but I will do little small things instead of a big drastic change. Thank you you all helped so much.