Thread: My Boyfriend Always Wants Sex

Hun i have read your other posts....Do you really want a guy like that in your life? He should be supportive and make sure you are comfortable and ready not get angry....

true ... but i dont know .. i'm in love wit him and even though he is this way ... i dont think i can do any better

Doesh e love you? If he doesnt whats the point? If he says he does then he cant get angry at you everytime you dont want to have sex, it doesnt work like that. A relationship is a two way street. Dont let him use you, you are better than that. Dont ever think you have to settle for someone.... Dont let them make you think like that either.

To me it sounds more like a self-esteem issue, rather than love. Which I think when you're really young (and with the wrong person) the two can often be confused for one another. Unfortunately, hindsight is usually the only way to realize it.

If you don't want to have sex, then don't. If he gets angry with you, then that's a HUGE red flag that should not be ignored.

Originally Posted by Kac

true ... but i dont know .. i'm in love wit him and even though he is this way ... i dont think i can do any better

If you don't think you can do any better, then maybe you're actually in love with the fact that you have someone who is willing to call you his girlfriend. Like sourpuss said, that sounds more like a self esteem issue than true love.

And, yes, you can do much MUCH better than someone who wants to treat you like his personal sex toy.

Originally Posted by Kac

Is it normal that he always wants to have sex ... its like if i touch him he automatically thinks we are goin to have sex .. and since we dont .. he gets angry

Some guys are wired that way. My ex-husband for example. When I become affectionate and touch him, he always expected it to end up in bed, which I didn't really feel like doing. So when I stop him, he throws a fit. Eventually, he resorted to forcing me.

Originally Posted by Kac

true ... but i dont know .. i'm in love wit him and even though he is this way ... i dont think i can do any better

You can do much better than this. If he acts this way right now, how much more when you're married. Are you going to let him have his way with you? Your issue is your self-esteem, like Sourpuss said. You seek validation, approval and love from another person, whilst it should start from you.

How much time do you spend on your own, may I ask? I hope I didn't sound offensive for you. Tough love here...

Is this the SEX forum

Never stay in a dysfunctional situation that puts you in pain or danger, or with someone who treats you like an inaimate object.

And I am completely sure you can do better, and can find someone who thinks you are a real treasure.