Why do women eat their feelings?

**Lizzy girl** · 02-01-2010 03:53 PM

Hey i have a question? y do women eat their feelings and then the men can just play playstaion? orwork on something??? we get fat they de stress WTF

**Texinator** · 02-01-2010 03:57 PM

Because you don't want to upset him. Then the question is: Why? Is it because you're afraid he might leave if you upset him too much, because you're afraid of confrontation, or because you were taught that women should know their 'place'?

Regardless of the reason for hold back, don't. You have every right to express your feelings.

**Lizzy girl** · 02-01-2010 04:02 PM

Im not afraid of confrontation i just dont like the arguement that follows an innocent question! i have never been afraid of expressing myself i do it all the time so do my really good g-fs. but the argument and yelling makes them eat . except for me on occasion it makes me to sick to eat. its just not right does any one else feel this way

**sperosi** · 02-01-2010 04:06 PM

it's not just women who eat their feelings. I know a few guys who do that as well.

some people just use different things to try and relieve the stress or pain. some people use exercise, some reading, some food, some drugs, and some sex.

**Isabellacat** · 02-01-2010 07:30 PM

Food is like a drug but I agree with what Sperosi says cos everyone's different really.

I just know for a fact if I'm eating way too much it's either because I'm really starving or just flat out depressed. It's a depressing habit I wish I can beat.

And hey girls play Playstation too!! I love Atari lol Videogames are cool and they're not only for guys.

**WildChild** · 02-01-2010 08:41 PM

There are different things that happen. If you aren't sleeping well for some reason, you get tired, eat for energy, if it's sugar you crash quickly, are tired, eat for energy and the cycle continues.

Another is nervousness, like smoking, the action of putting something in your mouth temporarily calms. It becomes a habit, done without thinking.

I think the biggest thing is emptiness. many people have an emptiness inside them that they seek to fill with drugs, alcohol, food, sex, gaming. What they really want and need is to feel lovingly connected with others.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 02-02-2010 12:22 AM

You may both have totally different personalities.

You may love to chat, express, be held, be sensual, sexual.

He may love to finish work, only talk a little, de-stress and not be petered about communicating at all..

In which case, you talk, it bugs, he spits, ...

**Lizzy girl** · 02-03-2010 04:25 PM

Hey cw are you married? you seem to have a lot of good advice. although its not what i want to hear i understand it. alot of men get irrattaed with the trying to talk about it thing. liek my gay guy friend said. even with his bf. men are simply. they need food to survive a woman for sex sleep work and they are happy. they dont liek to express or get in deep convos about un important things. but again he also said that couples nee dto talk . if not it wont work. . how can i talk to him with out making him deffensive and shut down on me and tehn say its my fault?

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 02-03-2010 05:10 PM

Older, was married

He seems to comprehend that it does take communication to make a marriage work, but you know that men aren't wired like we are, we are emotional, they will hide their feelings and talking means to them, (some), "here we go"...

I guess, if you "talk" in general and not, "me,me,me, I wan't, I don't have", it may make the conversation happen...

Or, straight forward, "I'm not happy, and I don't want the suggestions your putting out there, I love you and I want you, so we need to work this out so I don't continue this conversation over, and over again, it's getting tired and I know you don't like these talks"...