AND MEN SAY WOMEN ARE COMPLICATED!!! ya right!

**Lizzy girl** · 02-03-2010 06:32 PM

OK so i have a good question and i dont think its going to be an easy answer........ so just wondering. MEN like to see women lookin all sexy. dressed up in a sexy get up you know what im sayin', the sexy time clothes LINGERIE and dancing and doin erotic things SOOOOOO why is it when a women aka myself and 4 of my gf's do this for our men . they dont want us. they let us sit on teh couch lookin and smellin all sexified and ready to get the engine revin adn NADDA . WTH PEOPLE you can see it on tv in the victoria secret comercial and drool but when its right in front of you you can touch lick have fun drool on us YOU DONT HELLO WAKE UP and get with the Program !!!!!!!!!!!!!

**Mes T** · 02-03-2010 06:35 PM

Not all men are apathetic to their women doing things like that for them! My guy has a field day whenever I wear something nice or whatever.

But that also comes with a price... He gets irritated when I try to go to the grocery store a block away in my pajama pants and orders me to "put some pants on." It pisses me off. I'm a human being, I can't be like a TV actress 24/7, I need my pajama days!!!!!!!

**Lizzy girl** · 02-03-2010 06:39 PM

OK so then tehy say something is sexy and they'd "get that fo sho" hahah lol but when they have that infront of them nope nadda zilch . im so sick of looking like a porn star literally make up and all and i get a headn turn and back to the tv . or a roll over in bed and close the eyes OR what make me even more just GGGGRRRRRRRR i put on nothing but a white T and hop in the shower so it still leaves to teh imagination. and nope. hes done already./ IM at lose for things to do.

**Texinator** · 02-03-2010 07:41 PM

Some guys are more talk than action.

**WildChild** · 02-03-2010 07:42 PM

Oh boy are they! Nothing but talk.

**Texinator** · 02-03-2010 07:45 PM

But then if she doesn't try anymore with looking sexy, she'll be accused of letting herself go or something like that.

**WildChild** · 02-03-2010 07:59 PM

Originally Posted by Tex

But then if she doesn't try anymore with looking sexy, she'll be accused of letting herself go or something like that.

Funny how that works.

**sourpuss** · 02-03-2010 10:06 PM

Some men are more interested in the idea of what's under a big t-shirt or jammie pants. Sexy underwear and dancing around in front of them doesn't leave anything to the imagination.

**stressed** · 02-03-2010 11:41 PM

Men aren't complicated... you get what you see. If they're meant to be apathetic they will be, if they want to do something they will do it. I'd go as far as to say they're predictable...

**Hopeless Dork** · 02-04-2010 01:21 AM

I think they just get use to our bodies... the wow factor fades in and out and that one sexy lingerie set...loses its momentum for them. They ogle those women on tv in the same thing we got on differently... because its a different woman in them. So... boom.. wow factor. So you got to show them you can provide them with that boom... wow factor too.

My guy is awesome at noticing what I've got on and complimenting me and making me feel sexy... but there are times I've done it up and provided boom wow factor for guys on the street then get home and it didn't do the same for him immediatly, and I would start to worry that he didn't think I was sexy enough. But more times than not, he notices... whether or not he pounces depends on our moods but he's good at making me feel special.

If you wear sexy lingerie, change it up and wear the tshirt and panties and maybe some over the knee socks, if you do both... change it up and wear a costume - be a naughty school teacher or dirty cop

Change your hairstyles, one day wear no make up, the next day do it up, one day do a scrunchie pony tail the next day bam.... wavy and wild... next day straight and sassy.

No we can't be a million different girls, and yes they love us for us as we are and we don't have to change, but showing them the full range you have within you to be any girl they fantasize about can get things heated up a bit.

You can be a saucy vixen on monday night and a demure flower on wednesday... I think guys get bored more often than we do, them being these magical "visual creatures" and all.

I don't need my guy to bring anything but his penis to bed and I am one happy camper. But I've come to realize that a lot of guys need a lot more seduction than we do.

See when you are a single woman... its the man that generally does all the woo'ing you into bed.... but once you are a couple / married... and they know that the fridge is stocked with sex they can toss in microwave when ever they choose... they aren't as needy for it as we were lead to believe.

I blame the media and stereotypes... those sitcoms showing the husband always begging for sex. I think the show "married with children" is a more accurate portrayal of how it seems to be for a lot of the women I see come to forums. You know how peg would do just about anything to lure al to bed... but he would duck and hide and do anything to get out of it - still loved his nudie mags and bewbie bars lol though.

Movies , tv, womens magazines... a lot of them have us believing that men are just these sex machines that want it all the time when the fact is... they are just like us. Sometimes they want, sometimes they don't. But since we are made to think they always want it, when they don't want it with us we start to question what the hecks is wrong with us... when theres nothing wrong with us.

Before if a day went by when my boyfriend didn't want sex I would be thinking that he must not find me attractive enough - or he'd want it every chance he could get it... as I am growing in my relationship I am learning that men don't NEED it every day... just as we may not need it every day.

It takes communication and compromise - finding what buttons to push to tap into their desires, showing them yours... learning to pick up on cues that they want action and cues that they don't. Teaching them our own signals for desire and a need for intimacy and our sometimes need to just be held instead.