Crisis

**shweedart** · 02-14-2010 03:37 PM

Right guys! Big problem. My bfs dad is a perve! At first I thought it was just me...Im a pretty awkward person, not keen on physical contact with anyone but my bf. I dont even hug family unless its an occasion... Anywho it started as touching and tickling my feet... Which I laughed off... It then progressed to sitting next to me on an empty 6 person sofa and by next to me I mean leg to leg contact...very uncomfortable! Then, Again I was sat on the sofa again (hungover) so I was sat at an angle resting my head in my hand having a doze! He came and sat up against me, with his head on my shoulder and a hand on my leg.... After that I've started noticing him staring at me when he thinks I dont know etc. Today, V-day was the last straw!! Because there isnt enough room, me and my bf sleep on the living room floor... I was still asleep while my bf was getting ready for work upstairs and his dad came and layed next to me!!! What the f'ing f!! I could underatand if the sofa was full and he needed to sit on the floor but there was 1 person on the sofa!!

Am I being silly... I dont know, all I know is its too weird! And I dunno how to address it... Im worried my bf will think im over-reacting and get the ump with me. What do you guys think?

**shweedart** · 02-14-2010 03:39 PM

Also, its just me hes touchy feely with, his brothers gf barely gets spoken too! He doesnt even cuddle his wife

**sperosi** · 02-14-2010 09:59 PM

say something to the BF's Dad, be nice but firm about it, tell him that it makes you feel uncomfortable and let him know that you havent told his son - YET.

if it continues after that, tell the BF's Dad that you are going to tell his son, and then tell him.

**rcoreyus** · 02-14-2010 10:00 PM

You aren't being silly, his behavior is completely wrong. Its tough, but you need to say something next time he does this. "What are you doing?" might just work - make it clear that you don't approve. You don't need to make a scene. If that doesn't work, then you DO need to make a scene - and / or complain when other people are around.

**Hopeless Dork** · 02-14-2010 10:12 PM

Awkward. Ugh I feel for you. No one wants to tell someone they love that their family member or friend is disrespecting you AND them.

You're not overreacting. He's hitting on you. Feet licking can be sexual for some people... in the future I wouldn't let him play like that with you.

Are you living with the dad or just visiting?

If you don't live there you may be able to wiggle out of this without causing too much uncomforability. Cover up HEAVILY around him, even keeping a jacket on , zipped up -- making yourself just pretty much unavailable for any touch close to your body. Avoid time alone with him at all costs. If he says something flirty... IGNORE it. If he sits by you make an excuse to get up or better yet sit in places it would be impossible for him to join you, corner of a table lol etc..

I know that sounds like the chickenish way to handle it, but its your boyfriends DAD... if you call him out for hitting on you, he's gonna deny that to his son. And even if your bf believes you -- his dads going to be in his life and future family situations can be just plain awkward.

If he backs off, let it go... but if he doesn't or if you DO live there... you need to tell your bf what all you said here... tell him you worry that you might be overreacting, just as you said here... don't say the bit about the pervert, just speak in facts and see what your guy thinks.