Oral Sex (Swallow/Spit)

**JennieBottle** · 02-14-2010 11:14 PM

Hey ladies,

I was curious to see who all likes oral sex? I know it isn't for everyone. I personally love it and it's one of my favorite parts of being intimate with my man. There is nothing sexier than giving my man a blowjob, and I can tell it just makes him so happy. lol. He is always in a good mood after I go down on him. Even if we don't ever make it to the stage where he penetrates my vagina.

So yeah, I love oral sex, and everything that comes with it. My question to you all is this: Do you prefer to spit or swallow? Or both? Either/Or?

I can tell that when I'm going down on my fiance he really gets off when I let him cum in my mouth and hold it there until he is finished. It's really intimate and passionate for us. Does anyone else do this? I of course swallow, and I'm wondering if this is healthy? Are there any harmful effects to swallowing his sperm?

Feel free to share your stories ladies!

**p3375** · 02-15-2010 03:16 AM

Put me down for 'swallow'. I've always done it that way and enjoy it too. A lot!

What I don't understand is why it seems to matter to the guy. They all seem to like it when you do that. Esp when you let them know before hand. I just don't get why that gets them so worked up?
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**stressed** · 02-15-2010 04:38 AM

They do prefer swallowing than spitting. An answer I got to that was because if we spit then it's like we find a part of them 'disgusting' enough to spit and they don't like that, I think it even actually hurts their feelings. Whether they have ejaculated or not they rather see us swallow than spit.

My problem with that is, I've never had a problem with swallowing before, but current boyfriend is such a hygiene freak and hates having any kind of amount of sperm on him (he thinks it's gay of a man to have any on him and doesn't kiss me for the rest of the day if I've done it, go figure) that now I'm also slowly turning into him and subconsciously prefer spitting instead. As in, if he hates his own sperm then why should I like it? So I'm a bit confused now, on the one hand he always wants me to do it, on the other he indirectly makes me not want to.

**Futureboy** · 02-15-2010 05:28 AM

There is an alt 'snowballing' pass anyone. Not really my thing

**WildChild** · 02-15-2010 05:32 AM

Do a thread search, we've discussed this to death in the not too distant past. You'll find lots of threads on the subject.

**WildChild** · 02-15-2010 05:34 AM

Originally Posted by stressed

My problem with that is, I've never had a problem with swallowing before, but current boyfriend is such a hygiene freak and hates having any kind of amount of sperm on him (he thinks it's gay of a man to have any on him and doesn't kiss me for the rest of the day if I've done it, go figure) that now I'm also slowly turning into him and subconsciously prefer spitting instead. As in, if he hates his own sperm then why should I like it? So I'm a bit confused now, on the one hand he always wants me to do it, on the other he indirectly makes me not want to.

Does he go down on you? Turn about is fair play. I think I've finally learned my lesson, if I don't get any oral, he's not getting it.

**Hopeless Dork** · 02-15-2010 08:08 AM

Stressed he thinks any sperm on him is homosexual? Does he think touching his own penis when he masturbates is also homosexual? It sounds like he probably only has a hang up about it when it suits him. I'm sure during 'alone' time he's ran into his own semen now and then if not ALWAYS :P

I agree with you being uncomfortable with his fluids if he is. I would feel degraded if after going down on my bf he treated me like he couldn't be close to me until I steralized all of his juices off of me/out of my mouth etc.

Most times I swallow, sometimes I aim him at my breasts or at my tongue while I have him out of my mouth... but no matter which way some gets on my chin sometimes or on my chest and he always holds me after. I don't go up and try to french him after I do it... but I will rest my head on his chest, and sometimes get some on him he is fine with that.

**Fish** · 02-15-2010 08:17 AM

I've kissed him a few times after giving him a bj without thinking and he has commented on the taste (interesting, not bad), and I can understand why it would be weird, but on the other hand, I give him blow jobs all the time after he has been inside me, so it's the same thing really (I have no problem with this). He also kisses me after he gives me oral, and I've never said anything about it. I mentioned this to him, and now he kisses me after when we're holding each other. No double standards in this relationship.

**tinycit** · 02-15-2010 08:50 AM

I like oral sex, both giving and receiving. When we first got married I used to like getting facials, but now I much prefer swallowing. Facials are fun when you're in a silly mood, but it's a far more enjoyable to swallow. No chance of getting cum in your eyes and nothing to wash off after. Now he always cums into my mouth and I always swallow. His cum is usually pretty thick and salty sweet and I like it a lot. I know there are cum haters out there, but I'm not one of them. I guess it's an acquired taste.

**stressed** · 02-15-2010 02:13 PM

Originally Posted by WildChild

Does he go down on you? Turn about is fair play. I think I've finally learned my lesson, if I don't get any oral, he's not getting it.

He rarely does, although when he does he says he enjoys it a lot, so I don't quite understand why he avoids it when I always do it when he asks. The thing is, I enjoy giving oral, but when it comes to him asking for swallowing and complaining about spitting I feel I've changed to the worse for some reason. It's not that I mind the taste, it's more of a mental issue I have with it. It's like at the time I'm thinking "I have something in my mouth that he finds disgusting, I don't want it either" and that makes me gag. But then he complains "was it the taste? was it too much? why didn't you do it?". I wonder how I can deal with that in my head...

Originally Posted by Hopeless Dork

Stressed he thinks any sperm on him is homosexual? Does he think touching his own penis when he masturbates is also homosexual? It sounds like he probably only has a hang up about it when it suits him. I'm sure during 'alone' time he's ran into his own semen now and then if not ALWAYS :P

I agree with you being uncomfortable with his fluids if he is. I would feel degraded if after going down on my bf he treated me like he couldn't be close to me until I steralized all of his juices off of me/out of my mouth etc.

Most times I swallow, sometimes I aim him at my breasts or at my tongue while I have him out of my mouth... but no matter which way some gets on my chin sometimes or on my chest and he always holds me after. I don't go up and try to french him after I do it... but I will rest my head on his chest, and sometimes get some on him he is fine with that.

Whenever I've asked him about sperm on him and rushing to the bathroom to clean up every time he has some on him, he's said "guys shouldn't have any, it's different for women, it's gay to have sperm on, even if it's mine" etc. I'm always THAT close every time to asking him "didn't you get any sperm on you when you masturbated to porn in front of the computer?" but I never ask that, as I don't want to start an argument, even if it would be a valid point...

Once I tried to explain to him that I'm starting to have hang ups on swallowing just because of his attitude towards his own semen and he just said I shouldn't and it's great when I don't think like that... but he's always like that and it effects me (which also effects him). I've even tried to cover up the sperm afterwards, to show him that it's not that much on him, but he always runs to the bathroom to clean up afterwards. It's just that being 'messy' is part of the fun too and I kind of miss that. I don't mind him kissing me after he gives oral (maybe because it rarely happens) so I'd like him to be the same. To not get a kiss for the rest of the day after doing so much just for him feels rather degrading indeed. Maybe I should remind him of that more often, as it has started to effect me now and it spoils the fun for both.