This is my story at this moment!

**Crystalist** · 02-18-2010 07:51 PM

Well my boyfriend and I have a little girl 4 years old at this moment, We used to live In L.A but because of the economy I was force to listen to my boyfriend to move to Mexico (Puerto Vallarta) because he said we would be better which I understand he was trying to do the best he could. But when I came here I found out it was not as good as I had thought. There has been dificulties with money at times which to me is not that that important. But the most it was getting along with his parents. See his mother would have this problems with telling how and when I had to do things, at first I was like she will get over it, so I didnt mind it that much. But then it got worst, she would actually tell me how I should cook my food what I SHOULD NOT COOK, what time to feed my daughter, when to shower her, and also how to raise her. If I tried to correct my daughter and tell her a no. she would hug my baby and just take her. It got to the point where my daughter started to get really bad. a big brat. They made her that when ever she would cry they would run and give it to her no matter what it was. I teach my daughter english and they had a problem with that too. And they actually told me they had a problem with it. It got really bad untill I didnt want nothing do to with them. I would stay in my apartment and not have anything to do with them. Recently My boyfriends mother got convulsions and got send to the hospital, there they found she had a head tumor. Althouht my relation with his family was not good. I offer to help with the cooking and cleaning and what ever I could. Im not perfect, but I am a mother and I also have a mother. Now my situation is that his mother got taken to another state in mexico, and my boyfriend when to his mother because she wanted him to be there for the operation. He will most likely be there for about 3 weeks or a month at most. And Im very disapointed because he left us here my daughter and I. What should I do? should I be more undertanding? I want some help please girls

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 02-19-2010 02:19 AM

Hey Crystal.

I suspect your boyfriend is mommy's boy. She ran the roost now she's in trouble and he will be there.

I don't know how old you are, but she hasn't let go of her "baby" and is wanting your child to be bought up in the same fashion.

The thing is you left everything to live his life. Have you even talked to him about her? Not now off course, it's not the right time, but did you before?

Partnership is about doing things together, making decisions together, maybe he never got the chance to do that with his life, maybe you need to tell him, he can now, maybe, you need to sit back through this, he's in pain but think about a few things to discuss with him later, when things seem better.

You and him and your baby, are a family.... She had hers and whilst she may mean good, she needs to understand it's your lives now.

CW

**pink rosa** · 02-21-2010 02:11 PM

she is your daughter! This is time for you to feel happiness of parent , not for her . you should talk to here about it.. But about your BF is gone for now , you really should be understand and hope that his mom will be OK . he shall come back soon

**pink rosa** · 02-21-2010 02:13 PM

by the way , PUERTO VALLARTA is so beautiful , I was visit there before . Never wanted to leave .

**Crystalist** · 02-22-2010 08:21 AM

Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

Hey Crystal.

I suspect your boyfriend is mommy's boy. She ran the roost now she's in trouble and he will be there.

I don't know how old you are, but she hasn't let go of her "baby" and is wanting your child to be bought up in the same fashion.

The thing is you left everything to live his life. Have you even talked to him about her? Not now off course, it's not the right time, but did you before?

Partnership is about doing things together, making decisions together, maybe he never got the chance to do that with his life, maybe you need to tell him, he can now, maybe, you need to sit back through this, he's in pain but think about a few things to discuss with him later, when things seem better.

You and him and your baby, are a family.... She had hers and whilst she may mean good, she needs to understand it's your lives now.

CW

Ah yeah we have talked about it sooo much to the point I felt I was going no were. His mom is not a bad person. She just seem to be wanting to make all the decisions and to be honest I dont like that. I want for both of us to be on our own, with our baby. Some times i feel like I cant breath, like no one understands the way I feel. Thats why I came to you girls. Its a very hard siuation.