Around what age do women become more reasonable with what they expect out of a man?

**GentlemanGhost** · 02-23-2010 07:56 PM

Yes, I called the girl. Yes we are meeting up.

I wonder though. What age do women kind of break down and lower their standards......

It seems these days every women expects a guy like OhThereYouAre

**Hopeless Dork** · 02-23-2010 08:01 PM

ah,, grasshopper! Women don't lower their standards with age. Some young women have very very lower standards and some older women have very high ones. You want a girl with high standards, hun. You don't want to feel like you were picked from the bottom of the barrel by someone fishing junk.

Think higher of yourself, sometimes you get back the kind of vibe you put out into the world. If you are being jerky and arrogant... expect a jerky arrogant girl in return. If you are kind and caring... expect someone equally as kind. Know your awesome and expect awesomeness from potential girlfriends. .

**GentlemanGhost** · 02-23-2010 08:07 PM

Originally Posted by Hopeless Dork

ah,, grasshopper! Women don't lower their standards with age. Some young women have very very lower standards and some older women have very high ones. You want a girl with high standards, hun. You don't want to feel like you were picked from the bottom of the barrel by someone fishing junk.

Think higher of yourself, sometimes you get back the kind of vibe you put out into the world. If you are being jerky and arrogant... expect a jerky arrogant girl in return. If you are kind and caring... expect someone equally as kind. Know your awesome and expect awesomeness from potential girlfriends. .

Lol, just reading these forums though. A lot of women expect way to much from a guy.

Remember that one girl who was complaining that she liked the guys personality, but didn't like how he looked....and vise versa

It's like women expect us to be these perfect robots....

**Hopeless Dork** · 02-23-2010 08:12 PM

When a woman loves a man she see's no bad in him, no flaw. Look at these forums with these women married to/dating creeps that are SO mean to them, but they don't walk away, because they love them.

Look at the women that are so insecure about weight gain and say their so gained weight and they don't care, it doesn't bother them.

Once you have captured a womans heart, the details , the flaws... they are insignificant.

Don't get me wrong, a lot of women have this prince charming notion and on paper want a guy that is x that and x this and x that... but that wishlist is meaningless when the right person comes a long and makes them feel good, happy in their presense.

**Mes T** · 02-23-2010 08:21 PM

Originally Posted by GentlemanGhost

Lol, just reading these forums though. A lot of women expect way to much from a guy.

Remember that one girl who was complaining that she liked the guys personality, but didn't like how he looked....and vise versa

It's like women expect us to be these perfect robots....

We've been over that before, there has to be a combination of attraction to personality AND attraction physically.

Other than that, I really don't understand what you mean by women having high standards?

We all want someone to share our lives with and be happy doing so, that's all.

**WildChild** · 02-23-2010 08:57 PM

Good Gracious, the problem is that far too many of us don't expect enough. Read through the posts here! There are women putting up with all kinds of abuse and neglect and mistreatment. They keep hoping the man in their lives will start acting like a loving and caring partner.

**LanaBear** · 02-23-2010 09:31 PM

Same question, different day...

**stressed** · 02-23-2010 09:39 PM

Ehmm... to expect a woman to "lower her standards" to find you acceptable is not what you really want, is it? I also doubt you'd be happy with a woman of low standards.

There used to be a time when any unmarried woman by the age of 30 had to "lower her standards" just to find any kind of man to marry (and that wasn't women's fault, but society's).
Also, it's not about age today. Women can feel happy in our days whether they have a man, marry, have children or not, whether they are 20 or 50. So no woman feels pressured to lower her standards over a man.

Men have never had to lower their standards over time, they have always been considered the stronger sex in the Western world. But now that women have gained a significant level of equality and have also learnt to set their own standards, we think that "people today just expect too much". Although, it is a fact that the relationship tolerance level of both men and women has dropped compared to past years. Most don't want to sacrifice their life over convenience because they simply don't have to anymore.

**rcoreyus** · 02-23-2010 10:00 PM

Fortunately men are not an ordered set. It is not as if the women with the "highest" standards will all want the same guy, any more than all men would want the same woman. Different things are important to different people - you need to find someone who appreciates your strengths and doesn't care much about your weaknesses. Then they don't need to lower their standards. In my case I'd happily trade a Playboy model for someone who is fun to talk to and likes to do active things. It isn't lower standards, just different things are important to me.

**Little** · 02-24-2010 06:33 AM

I think what you're saying subconsciously is "At what age will women stop taking me, and men like me, for granted?"
It depends, but generally when they've dated enough jerks to open their eyes. Depending on the human being in question, they could never have to date a jerk, the epiphany could come at around age 18, 21, 51, ... or never.
Don't you want a woman to think that looks are important, and subsequently choose you? Every man is not Brad Pitt, and not many look like him. But there are very many men in the world who are good looking (thank goodness!!)
I don't think you're going about this correctly. You're right to think that the reason you haven't found companionship is tied to the company you're keeping - the female individuals who are not interested in you. But you need to have more faith in yourself. You need to look in the mirror and decide that you like what you look like, and if you can't decide that, you need to decide what you can do to change your mind.
A lot of men in this life have passed me over, just as I have passed over a lot of men. I'm a good-looking, intelligent, sassy, educated, loving, and caring woman. There have been times when I had to tell myself these things because I didn't really believe them. But it doesn't make them any less true. I've spent a lot of time being miserable because of a poorly-chosen partner and I've spent a lot of time making men who shouldn't have chosen me miserable. You just have to get out there and find a match. There may not be only one ... there could be hundreds, but in a world with 6+million people, you have to get confident and get cracking!
And for the record, though I very literally pine for the buff Bollywood actor physical type, I would never fall all over OTYA. Though I think we have a fine friendship based on mutual respect, I would hate him as a partner. Just knocking you down a few blocks, buddy