I hate my neighbours (venting)

**stressed** · 02-26-2010 05:01 PM

It's impossible to sleep with a drunken party going on in the upper floor (they constantly fight and/or play loud music) and a couple having sex on the other side of our bedroom wall. Yet my fiance fell asleep as soon as he hit the pillow. First he promises sex tonight (I told him that tonight was the last chance of the weekend due to my period - since he doesn't want to have sex on those days-), then we go downtown, we buy a board game (my idea, to have it cozy), then he invites his brother to join us in the game (which ruined the atmosphere and the whole plans I had in mind), but he "didn't think of it", although he did say he was sorry for ruining my day and thought I'd like the idea. He said inviting his brother wouldn't stop us from having sex later in the night, but of course, as I was 100% sure of it, it did. He left at midnight and everybody was too tired by then.

Anyway, I don't know what to complain about, everyone's right, I just can't sleep, I'm really mad at both sets of neighbours (mad at the ones who show disrespect at 2 am and jealous of those who are having sex on a Friday night). I'm only asking for one Friday night that includes sex, for once. But nope, not going to happen.

Oh well. Just having a bad mood...

**ThexMrs** · 02-28-2010 02:42 PM

I have a couple of incredibly awful neighbors. The first night I moved in the one was banging on the door repeatedly saying, "Let me in. It's me. Open the door. Come on." This went on for about 30 minutes or so. It happens quite frequently still and I've lived here since September.

My other neighbor is constantly bringing women into his house at all hours of the night and stomping up and down the stairs. I don't think it's sexual but I really don't know. It's just the fact that he/them aren't considerate when going up the stairs. It sounds like a herd of elephants.

As for the sex... I only get sex once a month if I'm lucky. I'm not sure how often you're having it but if it's more than that then you're definitely lucky. One night without it? Not so bad.

Anyways, I hope you're feeling better. I'm sure you are.

**stressed** · 03-01-2010 06:40 AM

Only 3 times a month for me, so it does get to me when I hear them, even if I don't think they do it more often anyway. It's the feeling of "somebody's getting it and I'm not" that I hate.

A day after I posted that our other neighbours had a party as well. I don't mind people having fun, I can take loud music till midnight, but not way past midnight, it's disrespectful even if it's weekend. Especially when they drink too much and fight, or the police shows up. It ruins my feeling of safety at home.

Hopefully we'll both move out one day!

Thank you so much for posting. I do feel better now

**WildChild** · 03-01-2010 06:47 AM

Don't you have noise regulations where you live? My community has them 24 hours. You have the right to peaceable enjoyment of your home, as do your neighbors, when their "enjoyment" crosses the line and disturbs yours, first try talking to them, if that doesn't work, call the police or sheriff.

**stressed** · 03-02-2010 05:24 AM

Well there's like a 'general rule' by our landlord that loud music is allowed after 12 in the weekends and Fridays. When they play after 12 during weekdays then the police do visit or other neighbours knock on their door and argue about it. I find it silly, though. Just because it's weekend and some people want to have a party doesn't mean that the rest have to wait till they're done to enjoy their weekend.

**GlitterAndStuds** · 03-03-2010 06:49 AM

My neighbors are total pains in the tuckus too. When we first moved in, it was just a woman and (I'm assuming) her boyfriend...both maybe in their late 30's, early 40's. And they were fine then, quiet enough, could hear them walking around and argue here and there but whatever.

Then her daughter, who can't be older than 19, and her 2 kids moved in, and now there's nothing but annoyance. The older woman is yelling ALL the time...and not even at anyone anymore. She just talks loud for the H of it and she has a voice that can bend steel. The kids used to be loud but not so much anymore. It's just her, and she's a raging b!tch.

She yells, stomps up and down the stairs, walks loud, everything. If I stand in the right spots, I can clearly hear everything she says. BUT I went up the stairs too loud one time (I was totally doing it on purpose) and she pounded on the wall at me. She did it another time too when Adam's friend were over, and they weren't even being loud. Apparently we're the only ones who do it

There was also a time where my dad came to pick me up to have lunch, and he parked in a resident space (which is ALWAYS open) for less than 5 minutes. We get in the car and there's a not on his windshield from them saying "You do not live here, visitors park up the hill". So rude. And no one is allowed to be rude to my dad, so Adam finally called the landlord and told her about all the issues and that they were having a girl and 2 kids living with them, when there's only supposed to be 2 people max. They told the landlord they would keep it down, but that lasted all of about a week.

Yeah, they suck.

**WildChild** · 03-03-2010 07:01 AM

Hummm, you can hear what is being said? How about making a comment or two whenever you see her? "So sorry your watch fell in the toilet".
She'll wonder how you knew and you can explain, "Oh I thought you were informing the neighborhood."

Or you could be super solicitous, when the stomping and such starts, run over and knock on the door to check that everyone is OK. "I heard you fall down the stairs". Do it over and over, always very concerned.
If it gets really loud and noisy, call the cops and tell them there is domestic violence, it sounds like they are tearing down the place or going to kill each other.

**GlitterAndStuds** · 03-03-2010 07:19 AM

Haha I do love those ideas! The being just as loud thing really hasn't been working in my favor. Maybe next time I see her I'll let her know that her rendition of the Elmo's World theme song was just riveting

**KMonte85** · 03-03-2010 07:19 AM

Stressed, any opportunities for you to move? If my mind serves me correctly, wasn't there a home your SO was referring to that you could go to? Maybe I'm way off, but that thought was in my mind.... If that's not an option, you could always start vacuuming and/or jamming out to some tunes at 6:30 am if they've made it a late night for you....

I too have had to deal with inconsiderate neighbors, and as others have also shared, you're definitely not alone! My first apt was at college on campus, so loud music, noise, and the occasional vomit in the stairwell was to be expected... but once I graduated I got out of there! Hoping to get a nicer place I moved into a nice farmhome in the country that was converted into a duplex...

My upstairs neighbors were worse than the drunk college kids! They both had a terrible alcohol problem, so if they weren't screaming at each other, they were screaming at their FIVE kids they had (all under 13), or having loud obnoxious sex on their squeeky mattress above my kitchen. They kids broke into my house and stole food (yes, FOOD... great parents, huh? too busy being passed out drunk to feed their kids), and they loved their fireworks... oh, and there was the time the dad came over late one night, completely drunk, telling me he had been watching me through my window, saw I was watching Family Guy and figured he'd come keep me company. Yeah.... that's about the best motivation a gal can get to MOVE!

So I saved my money for a year, researched the housing market in my area, researched loan options, bought a house and got the heck outta dodge! I have loved it ever since.. Now all I have to worry about are my nosy neighbors across the street watching us, but at least they are quiet and are at a distance!

**stressed** · 03-03-2010 09:31 AM

Originally Posted by KMonte85

Stressed, any opportunities for you to move? If my mind serves me correctly, wasn't there a home your SO was referring to that you could go to? Maybe I'm way off, but that thought was in my mind.... If that's not an option, you could always start vacuuming and/or jamming out to some tunes at 6:30 am if they've made it a late night for you....

I too have had to deal with inconsiderate neighbors, and as others have also shared, you're definitely not alone! My first apt was at college on campus, so loud music, noise, and the occasional vomit in the stairwell was to be expected... but once I graduated I got out of there! Hoping to get a nicer place I moved into a nice farmhome in the country that was converted into a duplex...

My upstairs neighbors were worse than the drunk college kids! They both had a terrible alcohol problem, so if they weren't screaming at each other, they were screaming at their FIVE kids they had (all under 13), or having loud obnoxious sex on their squeeky mattress above my kitchen. They kids broke into my house and stole food (yes, FOOD... great parents, huh? too busy being passed out drunk to feed their kids), and they loved their fireworks... oh, and there was the time the dad came over late one night, completely drunk, telling me he had been watching me through my window, saw I was watching Family Guy and figured he'd come keep me company. Yeah.... that's about the best motivation a gal can get to MOVE!

So I saved my money for a year, researched the housing market in my area, researched loan options, bought a house and got the heck outta dodge! I have loved it ever since.. Now all I have to worry about are my nosy neighbors across the street watching us, but at least they are quiet and are at a distance!

We're currently discussing about moving to another apartment. As for the house, we'd only get it if/when we marry, but it's old, it's his parents', his parents and sister's family (they party a lot) live nearby too, isolated from downtown... in the woods... it's like a little family village and I don't think I'm ready for that kind of life yet, so I'm just hoping for another apartment...

We played loud music at 8 a.m. the following day, it was a Sunday so they couldn't complain

You've had really horrible neighbours! I hope the ones across the street aren't too weird and know their limits.