I feel stuck in this part of my life?

**Mes T** · 03-08-2010 05:36 PM

Then go do something, man.

You said earlier the only reason you're staying home is because your fiance is trying to finish school and make a better life for you and yadda yadda... Well that sounds like an excuse to me, and not a very valid one. How about you pull your own weight in terms of "making a better life." Two incomes are better than one. A happy wife and a happy husband is better than a depressed wife and a happy husband.

And what if you two break up? You've hinted in other threads that you're not as into this relationship as you once were. What will you do when the support system that is this ONE person will be gone? Sit at home with one less person available to you in your life?

Sorry for the bluntness. But sometimes people won't budge unless we show some "tough love," eh?

**TheMysticalOne** · 03-08-2010 06:55 PM

SarahLee I can't help but feel the same way. I'm in a true rut right now. My parents are going through a divorce and it's been tough. I'm living with my mom right now but later this year when the divorce is over I plan to move with her to Chicago. I can't WAIT to go!! I'm finishing up college right now. I live in such a small town and there isn't anything to do here. I can completely sympathize with your situation. Luckily for me there will be a way out and I can't wait for it to come!

For now I'm just trying to do my best with keeping myself busy and trying to make some new friends. The hardest part is not having many friends or a boyfriend.

I think getting a job would also be a good idea for you, even if its only a part time thing. It will give you the opportunity to get out of the house, be active and maybe meet some people. Hopefully it will give you some time to decide what you want for your future. I think what you're going through is a Quarter Life Crisis. There's actually books on this if you look on Amazon for it.

I think it's just all about finding a place to belong.

**lilylavendar** · 03-09-2010 12:00 AM

hey there, I see you are posting from MI. I grew up there, and maybe you are feeling some of the winter blahs right now. I remember feeling the same way you do, right before the weather started warming up. I've worked pretty much since I was sixteen. I've had different types of jobs, but now that I'm older have settled into a more clearer path. You just got to get up and try. If you volunteer at a shelter, check around to the local animal clinics to see about vet.tech assistants. If you didn't graduate high school, a GED is a must. There are free classes for studying in most areas. You say you do some babysitting, if that's something you enjoy, maybe a job in childcare, or a teacher later on. Keep your chin up. Go to your local library and get some books. Sometimes it better to get out and read, then to get on-line all the time. I go to the library quite a bit, it's a good place to take some time and read about something you enjoy, or (quietly) talk to others. There are books to check out about GED's, careers, interviewing readiness. Maybe you can find where a local school has posted job readiness classes.
Good luck to you.

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